Health and Sanity Check-Ins

[sprocketta]

Things are crazy now. I think we are all trying to stay healthy and maintain sanity as well. I thought I would start this thread so folks can check in and discuss how they're doing. I want all my BIC friends to be okay. I will kick this off with a first post. Take care of yourself lovelies.

[twilightnicky]

Hi everyone, trying to be positive. I suffer from depression/anxiety and from the middle of last month have been going through an depressive episode. Before that, I lost my family.....I’m just heartbroken by this horrendous virus and I’m sorry if any of you are being affected.....so, had a nearly 5.0 earthquake tonight where I live. Kicking back with some wine trying to calm my nerves. Happy to have this community, love to you all ❤️

[mrsmouse]

Sending you hugs and love @twilightnicky!  I am so sorry that you are having a depressive episode right now.  It's never a good time for those to happen, but right now feels like an even worse time.  I am also deeply sorry for the loss of your family.  I cannot imagine all that you are going through, but just want to reiterate that the BIC is here for you.  ❤️

[twilightnicky]

Thank you so much 🙂

[ather]

@twilightnicky  Aww hugs. I’m here if you ever need someone to talk to! 

[twilightnicky]

Thank you 🙂❤️

[WinglessOne]

@twilightnicky  I’m so sorry. ❤️ I’ve been more worried about my fellow anxiety disorder tribe members than nearly anyone else, honestly. 

Not to condone boozin’ it up but: besides coffee, the one commodity I always have fully (haha, over) stocked is wine. It’d be great if each state would put a moratorium on all their silly wine shipping laws so some of us can buy and send whichever wines we want. 😄 I’m almost out of bourbon and might need to do an “essential” foraging run soon. I would happily ship you more wine, if I could! 

[twilightnicky]

Aww thank you, joined a wine club where they send a new shipment every couple of months so I’m covered lol 🍷

[curlychiquita]

That's so much in a short time, @twilightnicky. I hope things get better soon. ❤

[twilightnicky]

Thank you ❤️

[eshoe]

@twilightnicky I am so sorry to hear how difficult things have been for you, my heart goes out to you. Hope you were able to get some sleep last night and that each day brings just a little bit more hope 🙂

[twilightnicky]

Thank you 🙂

[Titian06]

I can empathize with you, @twilightnicky !  I've been been feeling anxious and depressed since November.  I was finally starting to feel better around the end of February.  Now the pandemic has hit my state and it's like waiting for the other shoe to drop!

[twilightnicky]

Yeah, it’s scary times 😢 hoping for the best though!

[lmaster]

oh my gosh @twilightnicky I'm so sorry to hear you lost your family!!!

[twilightnicky]

Thank you ❤️

[sprocketta]

@twilightnicky my heart goes out to you. I think this will cause a lot of depression. But it stinks that you were already feeling down. I hope you are seeing a mental healthcare provider. My therapist did a video conference appointment with me yesterday. I am very concerned the isolation will push me into depression as well. I am proud of you for knowing yourself and being aware. You have my heart and thoughts.

[twilightnicky]

I wish I could afford therapy, but I am on meds and taking it a day at a time....I also predicted that depression and anxiety would get worse for ones that already have it or start it for others. I really feel for the ones that have gotten the virus, the ones who passed away and for job losses 😢 I hope you will be ok in isolation! I’m glad you have a fur baby, they are truly amazing ❤️ Here’s mine

[MissPuff]

Has anyone else had issues wrangling their elderly parents?! I swear, my parents are worse than teenagers, trying to convince them not to go out unless absolutely necessary (and since I'm in town and can bring them whatever it is they need, it is never necessary) is like pulling teeth! The haggling, the bargaining!

I had a brief moment of levity this week when I was arguing with my parents about making sure they stay at home and wash their hands/don't touch their face. In a true Freaky Friday moment, my mum actually said to me, "I'm an adult, you can't tell me what to do!" and my retort was, "Don't make me take away your car keys!" 😂🤣

In all seriousness, thank you to everyone [praticing social distancing and self-quarantining. My elderly parents and I deeply, deeply, appreciate it 🙂 We're in this together! 

[mrsmouse]

My parents are trying, but not really thinking things through completely @MissPuff.  Things like, my Mom still watched my cousin's son because she had "already made that commitment to her".  I had to remind my mom that some people can have it, but not show symptoms, and that can happen especially with kids.  She said, "I didn't really think of that."  Then she wanted my 19 year old son to come down for the weekend last weekend, but he had just gotten out of the hospital the Wed before (he's okay, but has an autoimmune disease that needed immediate attention).  I explained to her that we couldn't know if he was exposed to anything while at the ER or in the hospital (I'm really trying to to let my anxiety run away with that), and again, she said she hadn't thought of that.  I was finally thinking that I was getting through to her and that she was understanding, but I talked to my son last night who said she asked him to come down this weekend.  Keep in mind he's in an area that didn't start the shelter-in-place until 2 days ago.  *HEADDESK*

[ather]

@MissPuff  Aww I’m sorry your parents aren’t listening. My friend keeps telling her mom not to leave her house and her mom just tells her she’s mean. You might be on to something with taking their keys away!!

[WinglessOne]

@MissPuff  There’s a fairly recent news article somewhere about the struggles of gen x women becoming caregivers for their boomer parents while also caring for younger generations. While I don’t have young dependents (well, not directly dependent), I do have 2 stubborn parents in their 70s who live several states away (Florida), where I can’t easily monitor them. I’m less concerned about my mother leaving the house. My father, though... for health reasons, he shouldn’t be out around other people at all right now. But he’s definitely not a stay home kind of person. He’s too extroverted and type A for that. I’m about ready to start GPS tracking him via Find My Phone or something, so I can call and demand he return home whenever I see he’s out. 😄 

I do think my mom’s trying to keep him home. She’ll drive him nuts as a warden; he’ll drive her nuts as an attempted escapee; and eventually, I’ll have to try convincing my brother (who also lives in FL, but nowhere near our parents) to drop in on them as a peacekeeping mission. 🤦‍♀️ 

It could be worse: I know someone whose house is currently full of his parents, his wife and kids, and his very young grandkids. He also has a dog and 4 cats and says wrangling the pets is much easier than keeping all the humans in line. “At least all the cats will come running and sit still in front of me as soon as they hear the can opener. What sound works on humans? What did I do to deserve this?” 🤣 

I hope you’re able to keep your parents contained!