Positive Vibe/ prayer request thread

[naturalooks15]

Hi All,

Don't want this to be whining or venting thread but this is pretty much the only community I am active in and really really like it so thought of posting here. 

This is for everyone to post if you like/need.

Some of you may know that I have been though toughest time of my life for last one year and every aspect of my life is hit. Looks like the ordeal is not over and now it's onto my career and in turn mental wellbeing . Without going into too much detail, my health was compromised to the point that it was life threatening, my personal life crisis beyond belief that I never thought would happen to me and crushed me. Now my career is taking a hit for various reasons plus my health/ some physical limitation causing me further stress, anxiety, having hard time concentrating.

I am doing everything I can. Fighting this very hard, trying to stay positive. I have started working out regularly because I think that will help physical as well as mental wellbeing and doing everything I can but I feel I am at a point where it's getting tiring I can use some positive thought and your prayers. 

Also, if you are someone like me where sometime I am at a loss of words and not sure what to communicate to the person but I still pray for them, that is ok too, no need to feel pressured to post anything.

Feel free to post your own requests in this thread. Again, not a pity party and definitely do everything in your control to power though but sometimes positive vibes and prayers are just the things we all could use. 

[prettyinpa]

Thanks for the update, @sprocketta , it's so nice to hear that things are going so well. Your bedroom looks so homey!

With your pup, here's a couple of things I did when I first got my girl. She had a bit of separation anxiety and with a giant breed dog, it can be a huge disaster!

I put a unwashed shirt of mine in her crate with her when I had to leave her. My scent was on it and it seemed to calm her a lot. Also, try leaving the TV on, the Animal channel or cartoons are my dog's favorite.

You can also teach her to be calmer. Put her in her crate, and leave with a minimum of fuss, no goodbyes, just leave. Stay away only for a few minutes, then come back and praise effusively. Go for a walk or play or a food treat, whatever works for her. Wait a couple of hours and repeat, only stay out a bit longer. You can work her up to a full work time period that she is expected to stay home by herself. Since she was calm before, I think it's just a relearning situation in a new-ish environment. My girl is very routine oriented, and I know she'd unlearn a lot if I moved her and disrupted her routines. Take heart, it will work out. Sending doggy vibes. 😄

[sprocketta]

@prettyinpa thanks for the suggestions! I don't pay attention  to her for 5-10 minutes before I leave and when I get back. But I hadn't thought to put my scent in her crate so I put a dirty t shirt in there. I started giving her a slice of American cheese when I put her in the crate because I wanted to associate the crate with a great treat. Now the brat won't eat any other treats, but I still only give her the cheese for going in the crate. We're heading back to the vet to follow up, but she hasn't really improved much since we went 3 weeks ago. I'll try the TV as well. I appreciate the advice.

[curlychiquita]

I'm so excited for you, @sprocketta!  You definitely deserved a positive change!

[sprocketta]

Thanks @curlychiquita things were pretty rough at my last job and life is much better now.

[Titian06]

@sprocketta - I'm so happy to hear how wonderful your decision to make such a huge change is going!  Isn't it just amazing what stress does to our bodies?  It's great that your diabetes is doing so well.  I hope Joy feels better soon!  💖💖💖

[sprocketta]

Thanks lovely @Titian06 I was really shocked to see that my last job was literally making me ill. Way better now!

[Nickelliebear1]

@sprocketta - That lip print is absolutely stunning, it definitely helps to be surrounded by the things that make your heart happy. I'm so glad things seem to have done a complete 180 since the summer. It's amazing how one thing can make so many things fall into place. I wouldn't have even thought about stress having an impact on one's blood sugar- is that typical? Do you have to monitor your diet a whole lot to manage your sugars? Also, your poor little furbaby. My parents have a black lab and the 86 pound baby has the worst separation anxiety I've ever seen in a creature. I knew that they leave the TV on for him because he needs to have some sort of ambient noise to feel like he's less alone, but turns out it has to be Family channel. Nothing I'd have ever thought to try out to help a pet- my cat just sleeps whenever I head into work.

[sprocketta]

@Nickelliebear1 yes, things just really fell into place. I have type 1 diabetes so I can't get by on just managing my diet, but I should be. I mostly just take insulin for what I eat and it works out. I have since talked to other dianetics who said stress really affected them that way. Thanks for the good vibes! Don't send a package right away, what I ordered will take time to get here.

[heartsmyface]

@sprocketta   That’s awesome everything is falling together so smoothly for you!  Hopefully things get better for your fur baby.   Are you able to talk to her through a speaker while you’re at work?  A few of our friends talk to their animals while they’re out and it really helps their pets. 

[sprocketta]

@heartsmyface the camera I have does allow you to talk to the dog, but I haven't tried it. I was getting 30 or so alerts per that she was crying and I just can't handle it every day. We're heading back to the vet tomorrow, but she really hasn't improved much in the last few weeks. 😞 We'll get her settled eventually.

[heartsmyface]

@sprocketta Awwww that’s too bad:(. Poor thing is still having a rough go huh?  hopefully the vet will be able to give you some more resources to help both of you through this.  

[blackkitty2014]

I’m so happy to hear everything goes well for you @sprocketta . Honestly you deserve it since you’re brave enough to make a change. I’m so proud of you. Fingers and toes cross for all good things come your way the way you want 😍🥰

[sprocketta]

Thanks dear lady @blackkitty2014 it's definitely been a big leap and change but I think it was the right decision.

[Nickelliebear1]

Just like another poster said, you're probably tired of my posts. 😜 2019 was not my year but honestly it seems like most years aren't my year. In September I ended up with a nasty concussion that I'm still waiting to see a specialist about and then I got slapped in the face with the whole grieving process. Most of my mother's generation is dead: the four girls all passed away October-January over a span or six years (one a month) and despite the fact my mother was sick nearly my entire life, I wasn't prepared to lose her as such a young age. My grandmother also passed away within 24 hours of me having to terminate a pregnancy I didn't think I'd even be fortunate enough to have.

My (living) grandmother is a saint, she took me in when I was pretty young and my mother was quarantined in the hospital. She also probably would have fought for custody of me if my mother wasn't able to pull through the surgeries. We're extremely close, it's unheard of for me to not call her every day. She has melanoma. She's hiding how unwell she feels from me.

My father came in to see me at work today. He wanted to tell me in person before I ended up seeing on Facebook that my step-mother also has cancer. She and I are pretty close, she's been the voice of reason in my life for the past 15 years or so.

Work has been a disaster. One of my friend staff made a comment to me in the middle of the hard days, where I was vulnerable and letting people know I was being more reserved because I was going through it, and basically implied I should kill myself. I sent him a message later on and let him know that comment was unacceptable. Well, he got to play the victim card and now I'm being penalized at work for defending my feelings (albeit the manager wants to be on my side.) I just feel so defeated right now. I have a bath bomb and I'm going to pour myself a glass of wine or make myself some coffee, put on a mask and cry while I watch Jeffree Star talk about his breakup.

[heartsmyface]

@Nickelliebear1 I just want to give you a big hug.  Ugh, and maybe chug some of that wine with you on the kitchen floor.  I was just commenting  on how no year is a good year but if you manage to squeeze a few good memories of each year you’re doing well.  That’s about all the wisdom I have.  Maybe a few more glasses of wine would help with that;).  Hugs. 

[Titian06]

@Nickelliebear1 - I'm so sorry for everything you are and have gone through!  My father passed away from melanoma when I was in my twenties.  Suicide is nothing to joke about.  I'm glad you said something to you colleague.  Too bad your supervisor isn't as brave.  Thank you for sharing your issues with us rather than keeping them bottled up!  We're always here if you need to talk more.  (((BIG))) 💖💖💖

[sprocketta]

@Nickelliebear1 I'm so sorry to hear this. I had a friend get a severe concussion and saw how much it screwed up her life. My heart is with you and I hope this specialist can help with your health. When we're not well ourselves, it makes everyday life difficult. And seeing what you are grieving through at the moment hurts my heart. I'm glad you had such strong women in your life as role models and caretakers. I'm sure it was devastating to lose your child and grandmother like that. Sorry, I'm probably making it worse saying that. I'm just pained you are going through it as you are such a wonderful and kind person. 

Know that you are strong and other people care. Hugs. We are here to listen. This too will pass, but feeling not okay is acceptable and understandable.

[curlychiquita]

@Nickelliebear1, I'm sorry to read all that's happened and is happening to you right now.  I'm sending a hug to you.  I think there are periods of life you just have to make it through,  and that you're in the middle of one.  A bath and a glass of wine sounds like a great idea.  Baths always help calm me down and help me sleep.

[Nickelliebear1]

@Sunnysmom@curlychiquita@sprocketta@titan06 - thank you for all of your kind words.  I needed to get everything out into the open and the general scrutiny that I can get when I open up to people in person is a lot, there's a fine line between pity and support that people seem to do terrible at dancing around.  Extending myself mentally (when I really didn't have the capacity to do so) and soaking all of my troubles away gave me the best night's sleep that I've had in weeks.  May have not been the worst idea that I've ever had- now to spend the day distracting myself with copious amounts of coffee and cleaning, before heading back to work for another long week.

[Sunnysmom]

@curlychiquita @sprocketta you both said it so perfectly for all of us. @Nickelliebear1 I’m so very sorry for all you are going through. My heart hurts for you too. It’s just the worst to go through and no words can probably help other than to know we are all here for you. And even though we all go through loss at some point it’s never ok or easy or the same. We are all thinking about you.  Hugs to you. XX 🙏🏻😘💞

[sprocketta]

Everyone is probably sick of me posting about this by now, but...to anyone who's been following this thread and supporting me, my new life begins tomorrow. I leave for NC in the morning. I was so busy I couldn't really get excited until I left my apartment yesterday. I had this huge ear to ear grin on my face yesterday as I drove from there to my parent's house where I stayed last night and tonight. I'm so excited now (and a bit nervous). Big things on the horizon. Thanks again for all the support BIC!