I need help to feminize my face... 🙏

[EvieSnow]

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I Started transition in September of 2021 and haven't had much changes , I'm still grateful and know I have to be patient,  but that doesn't mean I can't cheat the system a little,  I've never really tried makeup , a little here and there , but I know I'm missing stuff ... butt  I have some makeup , jecca blacs highlight contour conceal deleays,  and IL makiage foundation... i don't know what will help tho , I don't want to mess up bc i have no one to tell me yay or not(I've had like a dozen laser hair removal sessions so beard cover up isn't a huge huge focus) buut ... any help would be so so greatly appreciated  ... I'm over the whole division between do I learn makeup and deal with society or do I continue feeling uncomfortable never getting to express who I am . . . 

[JoSometimes]

Hi @EvieSnow. It’s hard coming into this world of beauty and cosmetics and trying to navigate it without any real help. There’s a TON of information out there, someone of it useful, some not so much, and some even toxic. It can get overwhelming trying to sort through it all. 

There are a bunch of lessons I’ve learned over the past year of getting into makeup. Firstly, makeup is for you. Whatever I think is beautiful is the way to go, what everyone else says doesn’t matter. Secondly, it’s just makeup. If I’m not happy with it, I just wipe it off! Don’t worry about messing up! I have my good days and my bad days with makeup, but I consider those bad days good because I’ve learned that what I tried doesn’t work for me. Thirdly, it takes some practice. I’ve watched so many tutorials but the best way to learn is to sit down and pick up the brush. 

As for products to try, I can see that you already have some great choices already. How do they make you feel? If you’re happy with them, then it’s just a matter of learning how to use them. I watched a few videos on YouTube. Stef Sanjati, NikkiTutorials, and even Sephora’s bold beauty were trans specific ones that I watched. I branched out to other YouTubers to learn specific things, but it was really overwhelming. The best thing I did for learning how to use makeup properly was to actually go into a store with makeup on and ask for feedback. The associates I spoke with were really supportive and helpful. Eventually, I sat down with a makeup artist for a makeover and she turned it into a lesson to help me recreate the look at home with what I had. If Sephora is a little too public for you, try calling a local makeup studio and see if they have private rooms for lessons. Some do and are willing to accommodate you. 

At the end of the day, don’t give up. It will take some time and patience, but hopefully you’ll find some peace in all this chaos. ☺️