Who am I trying to kid?

[Andy1087]

I was thinking at work yesterday about going to Sephora and getting a makeover and a lesson and buying al the recommended products and going home and recreating the look by myself and have it look perfect for the 1st time. Thinking that gave me an image of me looking great in my mind which made me feel very happy. Then reality kicked in and I realized this will never happen and I will continue to fall like I always do. I wish just once I would succeed instead of having a constant life of failure

[Andy1087]

Why can't I send a message to a member? When I click on send a message in their profile,. I get an error message

[WinglessOne]

@Andy1087  The person you’re trying to message might not have their PMs turned on. You can tag them in a post to get their attention and ask if they’ve turned on private messages. 

If yours aren’t on, then you won’t be able to receive PMs either. I wrote up quick instructions on how to do that: 

If you and the person you’re trying to message still have trouble after making sure you both have PMs enabled, report the problem in the Beauty Insider Community Feedback thread. @TeamBIC checks that thread for any bugs & glitches we report. 

[Andy1087]

I feel like such a wannabe in that I want to be good at applying makeup but every time I try I fail. I feel the only thing I am good at is falling every time 

[SportyGirly125]

@Andy1087 @You just have to keep practicing and changing the outlook of it. If you keep thinking negative then that’s all it’s going to be. At the end of the day it’s just makeup and you can always take it off and try again. 

[sissyboi72]

Hi @Andy1087 life is short. If it makes you happy and your not hurting anyone else just do it. You deserve it . Be happy do things that interests you. 

[Andy1087]

I so wish I could be good at applying my makeup. I get so jealous seeing how well so many others can do their makeup. I feel so inadequate in comparison I get so depressed when I realize my life’s dreams goals and wishes will never come true 

[DerrickMou]

I do identify with your story, I started my journey today. I am on camera every day and I feel I look tired and exhausted, so I took a deep breath and walked into Sephora to do something for myself to feel better - of course I had a whole story line in my head prepared to have a conversation with a sales associates. The sales associates was AMAZING, she made me feel so respected and she was incredibly patient answering all my ‘stupid’ questions and made me feel that it’s a learning journey. It will be a learning journey, and I am excited to learn what products work for me, though I am not known to have much patience 🙄

[Andy1087]

Sounds like it was good experience. What makeup products did she recommend?

[DerrickMou]

The products I got are from Fenty Beauty - I have used them for a while now and am a big fan of the products. I still have much more to learn and will venture other brands, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated 🙂

[Bogusz]

Car car are you in here? 😞

[CarrCar]

I’m right here bugurs

[onemichael]

✨You REALLY can do this!✨

Makeup, like anything, is a learned skill… with a few (coachable and consistent…) steps, you def can learn this no problem!

Reply here and I think I can get you started at the very least!

[Andy1087]

I am curious to hear how you can help me

[Andy1087]

So here is was going to practice putting on lipliner and lipstick on yesterday but wouldn’t you know I tripped and fell and work on the 30th and hurt my right elbow so I couldn’t rest it on the vanity and steady my arm to practice

[Andy1087]

Thanks for all your support and suggestions. I am feeling better about learning how to learn how to apply makeup right. I have to admit I am a bit overwhelmed by the whole makeup process 

[sleepyhollow87]

I fully understand, but found Sephora to be an encouraging place to be curious and discover what works for you. It’s still nerve wrecking wearing make up as a normal thing but if it makes you happy and confident go for it!

[heartsmyface]

@Andy1087  You’re seldom going to be amazing at something the first time you do it.  It takes practice!  Constant practice!  A good way to do a Sephora makeover is to have the MUA do half your face and then to copy their technique yourself on the other side right then and there.  You get a better feel for what you need to do later on your own.  
Don’t be so hard on yourself.  you WILL get better with practice.  Practice applying makeup each night before you wash your face.  It gives you freedom to experiment.  You can use one technique on on side and another on the other side with no pressure to have it turn out cause you’re going to wash your face right after anyway:).  

The real failure is giving up before giving yourself a chance to get better.  Be gentle with yourself.  

[LukeSlaysGlam]

@Andy1087 Stepping into something new, especially something as personal and expressive as makeup, can feel terrifying when we’re worried about how others might react. But trust me, you don’t need to go all in at once. You don’t need to be “perfect” the first time. Nobody ever is no matter how stunning the picture-perfect influencers look online. Here’s a soft little truth for you: Makeup is play. It’s a small act of self-love and self-expression, not a test you can “fail.” You’re allowed to take baby steps. Start with a tinted balm, a little concealer, or brow gel if that feels easier. Practice alone at home, where it’s safe.You’ll get better every time. Success is trying. It’s showing up for yourself, even if it’s just swiping on mascara and saying, “Yeah, I did that." You’re not a failure. You’re a work in progress, and that’s a beautiful place to be.

[sissyboi72]

@LukeSlaysGlam You got a way with words.  Thank you!!!!

[WinglessOne]

@Andy1087   Have you seen a therapist? 

I’m not being snarky about that at all. Heck, I have an anxiety disorder and a psychologist helps me deal with it. One of the worst parts of my anxiety is extreme self-deprecation: I sometimes fall into “I’m a terrible person who ruins everything” spirals that can shut me down to the point where I won’t even get out of bed (or off the floor, if one of those anxiety attacks hits me while I’m in the middle of doing something). Thanks to my therapist, I’ve learned ways to pull myself out of those spirals, or at least ride ‘em out quickly so they don’t continue for days. So from personal experience and genuinely for your sake: if you don’t already have a therapist helping you work through your feelings/self-perception of constant failure, please consider finding one. It’s a big step toward loving yourself. 

About makeup: take it in small bites. It’s easier to pick just one part of your face to focus on at a time and practice there. Lips are a good starting point. Instead of starting with a lipstick, just get a lip liner and practice outlining your lips. This will help you learn the natural shape of your lips. Once you’ve got that down, play with over/under-lining your lips to make some (or all) parts look larger or smaller. You can also fill in your lips with a liner. When you’re comfy with all that, try lining your lips and then filling them in with a lipstick. Keep practicing and you’ll eventually be able to apply lipstick without a liner.