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How do you feel about BT lately?

I've read through the guidelines... again, before posting this to ensure that: - I'm Nice - I have Good netiquette - I'm not vague (These are the rules) I'm a little disappointed with BT right now; over the last couple of months, it feels like there have been several issues within the community; heart parties, multiple posts, people complaining about things, and (we'll just call it) member issues. I have a love/hate relationship with this community; I've learned so much and met some amazing people (shout out to SparkleKai, Vanillammm, Loretta, Killahbabe, Hackney, Lari, KB, Linda, Annec322, {I'm sure I'm forgetting someone... sorry- it's like an oscar speech}) but it just feels like some behaviors are allowed and tolerated while others aren't. As much as I said I was going to stay away because the community was becoming draining, I find myself back here wanting to help someone, or read something that will enable me. It's really confusing and awful. I'm still fairly new to BT, and hear about the "old BT" where everyone was nice to each other, and it was fun (sounds like the 60's), but when I joined, it wasn't so contentious and filled with (be nice, be nice) people who are different. I'm interested to see how others are feeling? Is there something we can do as a community to change this and make BT feel like a functional home again? I'm not looking to stir anything up; I'm genuinely asking for your candor and ideas. I'm sure the Mods and Candace would appreciate anything that helps their lives too.

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I think the best thing to do, which people on here clearly have difficulty doing, is ignoring a post or user you disagree with. It seems many people forget the 'if you can't say something nice, don't say anything' rule. 

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*Sigh*

I'm new here & one of the first things I did was to read through a bunch of posts/replies/comments.

I even wrote a note about people being mean to others or looking only to be critical of specific posters opinions.

 

For the most part, I've been fortunate to have met a lot of great people who are so kind & helpful.

I'm learning something new all the time which is why I do login everyday & really look forward to seeing all of you. 

 

I've been speaking up lately on an issue I feel has crossed safety concerns since BT does have a lot  kids & teens on the forum, & especially now since school is out for the summer. I would hate to see something on the news about some kid/teen going missing from "meeting someone through social media type story." Some things I can't just scroll past. 

 

Mrsbaine, just keep being you! You are a lovely person & am glad I've you're here on BT.

 

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I stay on BT because I want to help others and keep the BT community (well, what's left of it) thriving. With so many members jumping ship and talking on the new forum, I felt it was best to stay here. Plus, I'll be honest... I prefer the layout here. LOL.

 

But it's not the same as it was pre-ship jumping. It's quieted down a lot, which is good and bad. It's not as exciting and there's less to check throughout the day, but I do see many more questions being asked, since they're not hidden behind repeat posts, and way less drama. There were many strong personalities that left BT, which has shaped how BT is now. I do appreciate that the cat-pack mentality is gone, though. 

 

When it comes to the far past, people tend to put rose tinted glasses on and only remember the good. While I wasn't there, I'm sure there was still drama and annoying posts. 

 

I think the best way to make BT fun again is to actually BE involved with it and be a good example. 

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I completely agree!  I love your positive attitude & appreciate your willingness to make BT the great place we all know & love <3  

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Thanks mia Smiley Happy

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Thanks, KB, for saying expressing how I feel about BT. I love hanging out on BT and chatting with the people who choose to be here. I think I'm friendly with quite a few of us around here, and I know I enjoy all the ladies and gents I've spoken to.

 

Ultimately, BT is what we make of it. Yes, it will change as the people who call BT home come and go. It's true of almost any organization that is dependent on its members.

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Passive aggressive=positivity in BT world now?

This makes me really sad. 

BT used to be such a helpful, fun place to hang out. Now, it is a wasteland and the shell of it's former self Smiley Sad

 

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I appreciate your opinion but I for one do not wear rose tinted glasses.  BT was a very different place.  A good one, a fun one, one I wanted to come to. Plenty of nice welcoming people with great advice that enabled you to shop with Sephora...  Now I don't want to be on BT. I really don't care all that much because I'm friends with all the people I wanna be friends with.  Guess I got lucky and joined BT when it was fun and got to meet and be friends with the so called cat pack.

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You and the other ladies pulled off a great April Fools joke. If being in a cat pack means having fun , then MEOW!

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meooowwwwza Smiley Very Happy

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I keep hearing about that prank, but I totally missed it.  Who will be kind enough to post a link to the thread, so I can read it?  I have no clue what it was called, so I cannot search it.  Every year on Facebook at least one person announces a pregnancy, and only once was it actually true.  That irks me, so I mostly avoid social media on April Fool's Day.  Cool pranks are awesome though.  Thanks.

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Thanks to the lovely lady who sent me a pm.  You are quickly becoming a new favorite of mine, and I cannot wait to read this.

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That prank was beyond awesome.  The way people chimed in at different times was so great.  Nicely done.  I knew it was April Fool's Day right when I woke up, so I just avoided social media.  My son did try a prank by offering me a brownie.  It turned out to be a brown E (made with brown construction paper).  I knew he did not have a brownie, so I knew it was a prank.  Although, it was funny when he pulled it out.  That was the extent of my fun.

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Everyone wears rose tinted glasses! I do, that's for sure! Heck, just yesterday I was reminiscing about an ex, and had to remind myself that there were clearly flaws in that relationship I couldn't overlook. And hey, that's okay. We're all allowed to miss the past (even BT's past). But everything evolves, and how we decide to move on is up to us.

 

And it's totally up to you if you don't want to be here anymore. If you're able to recreate the old feeling of BT somewhere else, then that's great. I've been on and off the other forum, and it's just not the right place for me. It also doesn't help that I can't see posts until I actually go into a subsection, so it's more work for me. I don't like work Smiley Tongue haha.

 

Also, I never said those who left were part of the cat pack. Just that the "mentality" of there being one was gone. I'm pretty sure I've defended plenty of the old-timer's comments from being called "cliquey" when they were simply being tactfully helpful.

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Can you please explain how calling a group of ladies a "cat-pack" is a good example?

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I was referring to the mentality of there being one. For example, blaming the "cliques". If you saw my posts when there was drama, you'd see I defended many who were called cliquey when they were just trying to be helpful.

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This was the image my mind came up with:

 

 

Cat pack.jpg

 

I have NO idea how I'll fit the other cats in here, but I'll try my best! 

 

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we'll squeeezzeee together!

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Killah, this is amazing. Omg. This looks exactly like my somewhat stupid black cat. Now I want to do this to see if he'll be able to figure out how to get out! (Spoiler: he won't.)

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HAHAHA. This is amazing. Can I buy a 12-pack?

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