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How do you feel about BT lately?

I've read through the guidelines... again, before posting this to ensure that: - I'm Nice - I have Good netiquette - I'm not vague (These are the rules) I'm a little disappointed with BT right now; over the last couple of months, it feels like there have been several issues within the community; heart parties, multiple posts, people complaining about things, and (we'll just call it) member issues. I have a love/hate relationship with this community; I've learned so much and met some amazing people (shout out to SparkleKai, Vanillammm, Loretta, Killahbabe, Hackney, Lari, KB, Linda, Annec322, {I'm sure I'm forgetting someone... sorry- it's like an oscar speech}) but it just feels like some behaviors are allowed and tolerated while others aren't. As much as I said I was going to stay away because the community was becoming draining, I find myself back here wanting to help someone, or read something that will enable me. It's really confusing and awful. I'm still fairly new to BT, and hear about the "old BT" where everyone was nice to each other, and it was fun (sounds like the 60's), but when I joined, it wasn't so contentious and filled with (be nice, be nice) people who are different. I'm interested to see how others are feeling? Is there something we can do as a community to change this and make BT feel like a functional home again? I'm not looking to stir anything up; I'm genuinely asking for your candor and ideas. I'm sure the Mods and Candace would appreciate anything that helps their lives too.

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Something like a 'block' list on Facebook?

Until something like that's implemented, I don't 'follow' or if I'm already 'following' I stop. Like you said, easier said than done since once it's been seen, it can't be unseen.

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One of my favorite ways that I see forums do this is when the community can "collapse" as thread based on a percentage/number of votes from community members.  So when something is not relevant or hurtful, the community can collapse it instead of the mods.  The thread can still be opened if a community member wants to read it.  They just have to click through a link. 

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Etscore, that's a great idea. There is an ignore function in the PM section where you can block a user from sending you messages, it seems realistic to expect that you could be able to block a user from your visible post feed. Sephora needs to have some of the awesome ladies on here who are in computer programming/code writing give them a hand, I'm sure they would be more than happy to help!

I have trouble downloading music to my iPod, so don't look to me for help! Smiley Happy

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I am new around here and to be honest I liked it better beforevthe ship jumping. I felt like the older and more experiences members kind of guided (some times not so gently) the noobs. Noobs need guidance this past week is a prime example of how a new member can come on and just go crazy and it seems like the only time the mods get involved is when someone swears (oh god not swearing) or after a problem has grown into a mess.  it was a lot more fun around here before the mass exodus. I followed but still check in here time to time. 

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Thank you all for the feedback! 

 

I want to add that while we do see the posts that go on (each and every one of them DO come through to us) keep in mind that sometimes? It is 10-20 posts as once! We have hundreds to view everyday and CAN miss issues that come up! We really do rely on you to report issues to us or posts that are taking a wrong turn that we may have missed, which yes, DOES happen. You are welcome to directly PM any of us for assistance and we will take care of it anonymously.

 

At the same time, reporting on a post because you personally do not agree with a users suggestions, ideas, thoughts or photos? Not always the best for us to help with unless it truly is something inappropriate or bordering on medical suggestions/advice that we need to leave to professionals. We do warn you when we remove posts and edit posts (PLEASE reach out to me directly if you were not told so I can help), but remember that we do have guidelines and really ask that each of you follow them for the sake of keeping the peace and keeping BT a fun, safe, welcoming and positive community.  What about those heart parties right? Smiley Wink 

Luv&Lipgloss, Diana

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OH! So you get to see all my Jensen Ackles pics before anyone else?? lucky you!! Smiley Wink

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Perks of the job!

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seriously, we appreciate the mods and your words of wisdom and encouragement!! Smiley Happy

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whatttt where are these jensen ackles pics you speak of??? LOL

Luv&Lipgloss, Diana

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oh, I have quite the stash. Go check out Kssweetheart's heart party.. plus you will see my Daisy the greyhound! .or I can PM you a few. He is such manly perfection!! I think I posted some on some other recent heart parties...go l@@k for him, you can't miss them!! Smiley Wink

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Thanks for the shout-out, MrsBaine! Smiley Very Happy

 

I pop in from time to time but it's just truly not the same. I miss all the fun posts that made BT quirky and different. I know some people didn't care for it, but the majority loved the heart parties and the wacky threads mixed in with beauty questions, hauls, and TSBs. I've never followed the rules by the letter and probably never will. This could mean one day I'm banned. But I'm okay with that. Don't take that as me being an a-hole about BT. I used to love BT and deep-down still do. I'm grateful to BT because I've formed some incredible friendships and have spent hours laughing like an idiot about some priceless moments on this forum. I'd like it to go back to something like that, but I know it probably never will. I can get some fun gals to revisit BT when I'm on, but it'll never be like it was. We still had drama on here back then and I wont pretend it was perfect, but BT definitely felt more like home to me (and a lot of other members). I find BT to be a bit too quiet and stale for my tastes nowadays, but sometimes I'll find a gem of hilarity mixed in with the mediocrity. And on those days, I'm so happy to be a member! Smiley Very Happy

 

 

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^For the good, old days!

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There are still heart parties, TSBs, Hauls, silly off-topic posts, and all that stuff. I still don't understand what all the fuss was about. 

I thought the Llamas, Paula deens, and all that were funny too! 

 

::sniff sniff:: why can't we all just get along?!  Smiley Wink

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Everything is few and far between. I know most TSBs have been moved off-site. I still see the monthly haul posts going strong (which is good), but that's about it. No Paula. No llama. No fun. 

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So true and so sad!Smiley Sad

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I've had an account here since the beginning, although I didn't regularly participate for a year or two? (time goes by so quickly, I can't remember!)

 

I agree the "old days" were very civil, in part to be a much smaller community. Now that BT has become more well known it has attracted all sorts or personalities (for the better and worse), and I agree that the rules can feel so wishy-washy about what is allowed and what is not. Posts that are nonsensical or give BAD advice are left up for long periods, and established members (that have contributed far more) are banned for only one or two indiscretions. I find myself checking in much less often than I used to.  It's kind of sad seeing it deteriorate like this, combined with my dissatisfaction with Sephora in general (I haven't even re qualified for VIB yet).

 

To be honest though, the "old days" will not likely come back. It was just a much smaller community and people seemed to take more time to "figure out" the community before posting, and everyone acted very mature. And this is hard to attain with so many more people and people who are more immature (not meaning I'm against young people, I'm not that old either, lol) It's not necessarily a bad thing, just a sort of the end of an era, so to speak.

 

I would like to see the guidelines to be much less wishy-washy, and not allowing one member to toe the line, or break any rules  and another being allowed to simply because of their age or mental state. I would also love to see  a change, so when people join BT, there is more of an intro or such, so newbies can get the feel of BT before they start posting (the umpteenth thread about "what Naked palette should I get?", or other such repeat). 

 But again to be frank, we have had these discussions several times before, but nothing ever really changes.

 

Sorry to be  downer  Smiley Sad I would love to see a positive change though, because I really did love BT and met some truly amazing and inspiring people here.

 

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shout outs right back at ya mrsb!  i come back to bt once in a while...but rarely.  the reality is i am thankful to bt for being able to build some amazing real life relationships with some AMAZING ladies!  some of these ladies i can no longer imagine my life without!  bt isn't the same.  some may be happy with that, others like myself are clearly not.  my biggest issue is the inconsistency.  why is it ok for some users but not for others?  certain people post some straight up crazy, insulting and/or judgmental things, but these are allowed to pass.  However, you throw up an upside down chicken, a llama, some paula deen, well the poo poo is gonna hit the fan!!

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*Puts goggles on. Looks at fan*

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love the throwback killah!!!! 

 

and addition to my earlier post...bt used to be the place ♬ where everybody knew my name and they were always glad i came♬

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I got that one too! Smiley Very Happy

 

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our first season!!!  first of many more ladies!!  

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Agreed. And btw... I feel like I want butter.... Odd... Maybe the llama pic? Smiley Wink 

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