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Getting mistaken for being younger/older

I think most people are pretty happy about getting mistaken about being younger. I'm not exactly mad about it, but I always wonder why. I'm sure this will pay off later in life but being 20 and getting mistaken for 13 is amusing.

 

I went out to eat with my Dad onetime and this guy was cursing at a nearby table. The woman told him to be quiet because there were kids in here. I was the youngest person in there. When I asked her about it she said she thought i was 13 and I laughed. I would say this was only because I was with my Dad but some of my friends have even misplaced my age. They initially guess 16, I guess because I have a car they couldn't assume any younger.

 

 

About the only time I've been mistaken as older is when I was 14 and a lifeguard hit on me. He was probably about 18 and I couldn't figure out why he was so interested in a kid. I told him my age and he ran away like Chris Hansen was going to slide down the water slide and arrest him. 

 

I'm not exactly short (5'7) but I do have a petite frame. I thought this was all quite funny until I realized I often wear dresses, high heels, and makeup. Then I began to wonder if I look like a kid trying hard to dress like an adult. Kind of like when you were little and you put on stuff from your Mom's closet. I'm not sure if I should still find it funny or be horrified. 

 

 

 

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when i was a little younger, i went to the mall with my mom. she went into a store and i was tired so i sat down and played some games on my ipod. for some weird reason i got these looks from guys and i was approached by these people and they were like "are you in high school" umm no. not even close.... so yeah. im really tall for my age and i tend to have a more "fancy wardrobe" private school. you get judged on a lot. but the girls have to makeup sense. tsk tsk. sorry veered off course.

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 I'm 25 and everybody thinks I'm still 18-19. I guess I should like it but I can't STAND it, especially when it comes to work. I work hard, and want to be seen as a professional, but I'm constantly talked down to even by peers (until they learn my true age -- the difference is night and day and it is really sad.) it also bothers me that people assume I'm too young to be so serious with my boyfriend (oh you guys are only teenagers, you shouldn't be talking about rings yet.) MYOB! Smiley Mad

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I'm 31. I have two kids. I was in Costco with my younger child (he was three then, I was 30) and had a guy stop me to chew me out for the irresponsibility of being a "teen parent." I was completely baffled and said, "Uh, that's an interesting theory that I don't share but I'm not a teenager." And he responded that I must have been when I had my child and I said, "Not even close, I was 27." Dude wouldn't believe me. My spouse has been clucked at a few times for "being that older guy with a younger woman." Uh, we don't have an age gap - everyone always thinks he's older, though (it must be the salt-and-pepper beard) and I'm younger. He got chewed out once at a movie theater by a woman about "having a girlfriend young enough to be your daughter!" I was 25.

The strange thing, though, is that when I was younger, I was frequently mistaken for being older. I was carded the first time for club entry when I was 23 - no one had ever asked before, so I was kind of surprised. I wound up on a few dates with people that thought I was older than I was and spooked them when I mentioned my age (legal but younger than they thought.) 

Honestly, while being mistaken for being younger can be flattering, it comes with a host of other issues. People aren't particularly nice to people they perceive as younger who drive a newer car, carry a designer purse, look put-together, have kids, have an age-appropriate spouse, want to sign for a loan or mortgage, and a host of other things. People feel entitled to give opinions to younger folks that they have no business giving unasked and if you look younger, you'll get that treatment as well. 

All that said, I'd rather be told I looked a few years older than my age than be asked if I feel well or told I look "tired." The "are you feeling okay" and "you look tired" feel so pitiful! 

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Exactly! I thought i was the only one who shared these feelings. Constantly, I hear "OMG, you're 25?! I thought you were 17! Well, you'll appreciate it when you're older." It's not all about looks, it's about treating people as equals.

I've even lost out on several jobs because the employer said I looked too young for my age and it would look bad to clients Smiley Sad

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I'm 27 but I always get mistaken for a 16-17 year old. I just recently had my 6-month dental check-up and I was with the new dental hygenist. She was asking me different questions and when I started an answer with: "Me and my husband..." She stopped me dead in my tracks and said: "Your husband?! You're too young to be married!" I said: "I don't know about that... I'm 27." She then squirted water across the room (apparently I shocked her) and said: "No way!" Turns out, I'm several years OLDER than her.

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That would have pissed me off. If I'm already married, how DARE you say anything about my marriage, regardless of your opinions? Ugh! People.

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I get the "you're too young to be married" bit all the time. I don't quite understand it but it's kind of too late... I'm already married so telling me I'm too young isn't really going to change anything. haha.

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Oh wow all you girls are so lucky! I don't really get called out on way or the other for being older or younger. I'm 27 and I feel like I look older...maybe its just my being self-conscious. I've been really scared lately of looking older. Just last night I looked in the mirror (really looked) and started crying because I'm getting wrinkles under my eyes, crow's feet, AND 11's between my brows, Out of nowhere! I know its stupid and narcissistic, but I was so upset. My daughter said, "But you're a MOM". Ugh. So...I probably get mistaken for my age or older. 

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Im 24, and a neighbor who claimed to know me and my family, was talking to me about the city 40 years ago, & i was standing there confused.. until I told him I wasn't even born & he said I looked mature for my age... (I had done my makeup that morning to go out for the day) - Foundation, blush, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, countouring, the whole deal

 

One day going to the post office in sweats- with only foundation, eyeliner, mascara and blush. the bare minimum, and it was a school day and the police stopped me... asking where I was going and why wasn't I in school.... and I wasn't answering until they asked me what school I went to.. and I said "O I go to (....) College. " and I kept walking away.

 

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I feel your pain. I'm 25 with two kids and when I was pregnant with my first (at 23) my husband treated me to a spa day. My masseuse asked if I was out of school for the day and I said no I graduated last year and then she asked if I had any plans on college after the baby was born. I had to tell her I had graduated college last year, she didNt believe me. When I was student teaching I was stopped by hall monitors for the first month to see my bathroom pass :/ one escorted me to the office because he didn't believe I was teaching ( he was embarrassed). Now when I'm out with my girls I get asked if I'm the nanny. I know someday I will enjoy looking young Smiley Happy 

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Eyeliner is a magical thing.  I tried an experiment over the course of a couple days to verify makeups aging vs youthifying effects.  I went to the same lounge for this at different times so the staff wouldn't recognize me.  I started going with full makeup except no eyeliner.  Every time, I was not asked for my ID.  When I added eyeliner into the equation I was asked for it 75% of the time.

 

Perhaps I have an ambiguously aged face?  But seriously, the way and style in which you apply your makeup can have a huge effect on how old or young you are perceived to be.

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I get mistaken for younger all the time ( I'm 25). But I like it because it means that all that money/effort spent on skincare the past few years were worth it Smiley Very Happy

 

I've never been able to order a drink without getting carded. I'm attending a work Christmas party at a restaurant this Sunday so we'll see what happens there lol.

 

I remember in high school when I was trying to get some extra money babysitting I would get comment like " I'm not sure if I can trust a 13 year old" ( and I was 16!).

 

My mom is 45, will be 46 next month and gets mistaken for early 30's all the time. Good genes help too Smiley Very Happy

 

 

 

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Before having kids, I always got mistaken for being much much younger. Now I have dark undereye circles and a much larger bust so I don't get those comments much anymore. We should have a "guess my age" based on a picture you post thread.

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Start it! That would be fun, though I suppose would be easy to hurt someones feelings so on second thought, maybe not... hmm lol

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Hmmm...that's true. If I promise not to get offended, does anyone want to guess my age? I took this just a few minutes ago on my webcam so it's not very good quality but hopefully it will do.

 

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Hopefully this will work. I'm 24.

 

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I'm gonna go with 25.

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I didn't want to guess, so I asked my boyfriend what he thought. He said 22 lol

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I asked my boyfriend and he said late 20's. So 27 or 28.  

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I'd say early twenties.

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When I was 13-16, people thought I was older. Sometimes I'd get mistaken for being in my 20's. I actually don't have a guess why.

 

Now it's even funnier. When I don't wear makeup and am dressed casually, people don't think I'm even 18 yet. I'm 28. I guess it's a good thing, but it can be pretty funny. I think that's why I have such a makeup obsession. I like looking my age.

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This summer, I was honestly mistaken for being 14 years old by a peer. And I was 20 at the time, lol.

 

On my 19th birthday the waitress thought I was turning 16.

 

At the same time, I've been given alcohol wristbands at events in the past because nobody bothered to check my ID.

 

I recently turned 21, so that no longer applies, but. It's interesting.

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I'm always getting mistaken for younger, I have a bad habit of really dressing 'comfortably' when I'm not at work (yoga pants, sweatshirts, etc), so it's not much of a surprise when people ask for my ID. Just a few days ago someone ran up and questioned why I wasn't in school, to which I responded with "I have two BA degrees as of 2010...I've been done for years now".

 

The only time I really get annoyed is when I'm fully dressed up and out with friends, all of whom do not get carded but me. Usually my response is something cheeky like "What 19/20 year old do you know with a good looking half sleeve?" usually the bartenders just laugh. I've even had a few occasions in which I've been accused of having a fake ID! This usually results in being told to smile, asking what my star sign is, how tall I am, etc. It's really quite obnoxious.

 

I will say this, I'd rather look younger than my age instead of way older. And just remember ladies, when we're in our 40s/50s we'll be mistaken for being in our 30s, which works for me!

Whimsically yours,
Janine

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I was accused of having a fake ID at Fat Tuesdays in Las Vegas. The bartender went so far as to say that she's going to call security to check out my card and  I told her, "Go ahead, I'll wait right here." Mind you, this is AFTER she scanned my ID and it went through! Luckily I had my old driver's license with my maiden name on it (along with my change of name paper from the DMV), but it was only then that she let me buy a drink (she gave me several extra shots for free to make up for the scene she caused).

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My husband and I also tend to get carded..not so much at the bars/ liquor stores in our area that we visit more frequently, but more out of town like in Santa Rosa, Healdsburg (though Russian River Brewing is also a restaurant so they'd be foolish NOT to card everyone who doesn't look at least 40+). When we were in Wailea (Maui) we were at Monkeypod and when we presented our IDs the bartender thought we were literally part of a sting. Perhaps he wasn't used to California IDs (I didn't change my name but we have the same address on our IDs), more likely I think I think we dress young/ have a young demeanor. We'll be 32 this year, so I absolutely take it as a compliment. My response is usually "by all means" or "thank you"!

 

Keep em coming, I love getting carded! Glad to know my skincare routine/ healthy lifestyle is working!

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When I was 18 years old I was mistaken many times for 12-13 years old. Very embarassing! Today I am close to 60 years old and get mistaken for 35 years old. Do not worry because one day you will have the last laugh.