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Can we talk about Engagement Rings?

Off topic.. But I can't do my paper, my job keeps calling me with questions and distracting me like crazy (I took off to do this final today and it's getting nowhere...ugh)

Show me your pretty rings, or your dream rings Smiley Happy

 

This one is my dream ring:

 

....Yeah, I want to marry that ring.

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I love the pink one it's gorgeous !

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These are gold rings plated in some sort of black alloy.  So they're gold, but gold covered up in something black!  (And the designer warns that the black will come off in a year).  If you really want a wearable black metal, mind as well go with gunmetal or something more durable like that (not as precious, but won't wear off either!)

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Thanks! I figured there's some gold involved (like white gold mixed with nickel or pink gold with...copper? I forget the specifics.) But it sort of reminds me of titanium, too. I first saw it on pinterest, specifically this ring:  wawaweewa

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I don't love this ring for a very ridiculous reason. It looks like the black ring from the Pretty, Pretty, Princess board game. For those that don't remember, if you have the black ring, you can't win and become a princess!

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Ahahahaha it totally does!

 

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Forgot about that game! I used to play it all the time, I wonder if I could still find a set somewhere just for nostalgias sake

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eBay! You can find nearly any childhood toy or game there Smiley Wink

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I remember that game! I was just a little too old for it (9 or 10) when it came out, but my younger sister had it, and we used to play it all the time Smiley Happy

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Oh my god!  You are so right!  When I was little I would make my grandpa play that game for hours!  He was a good sport and played along wearing every piece of jewelry he earned!  

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This post gives me a sad, for so many different reasons.  I'm just going to list them, in no particular order.

 

1. Blood diamonds.  Most diamonds are usually acquired through inhumane conditions, and finance wars.

2. The value of diamonds is artificially created by the DeBeers monopoly. 

3. The wedding industry....  It's gross.  It's one day of your life, hopefully you only get married once, but most people don't, and it's ridiculous to spend the amount of time, energy, and money into it that is popularized in the media.

4. It places a value on how much your partner loves you and encourages competition amongst women. 

5. Plain old consumerism at its worst. 

 

Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but it makes me sad when I see women getting all excited about engagement rings because I feel like too high of a value is placed on being married and all the hype associated with it. 

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My ring has a synthetic stone for all these reasons.

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I talked to my boyfriend about moissanite because of this, but hear mixed information all the time. It's not as common as gemstones so there's a lack of information Smiley Sad

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Also moissanite is wayyyy cheaper than diamonds -- Bonus.

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Yep.  Fancy ring or half the down-payment on a house is not a tough call in my book.

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Ten years later mine is just as lovely as the day I got it and it's been through hell, garden work, major renovations and got knows how many loads of dishes.  Plus it's guilt free.

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We know you don't mean to be a Debbie Downer, and I'm sure the OP (IllegallyBlonde) didn't intend for this thread to be just a light-hearted, off topic thread to post some eye-candy in the jewelry world (we've had plenty of men eye-candy threads lately). The issue of blood diamonds is something that each individual will have to take into consideration if they so choose and when that time comes to where they do want to invest in a diamond. Yes, an engagement ring can be backed with the factors of consumerism and commercialism, but it doesn't solely have to be based off those factors either.

 

The reasoning you have behind not favoring diamonds and the ideal behind a physical manifestation and extension of an engagement through the means of a ring by all means are rightfully yours to share, and it's definitely a "to each their own" mentality. I hope everyone that reads your post can understand it as that. This could very easily be translated to someone posting in the Naked 3 palette thread, with all the buzz and anticipation its generated, and merely stating how it's just way too hyped and don't understand what the big deal is.

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There are plenty of alternatives. These days, plenty of people use stones that aren't diamonds in their rings.

 

Getting married doesn't mean you will throw out your values.

 

Some people tend to go for the over-the-top affair and some have intimate, understated ones. Some wedding websites (The Knot...yuck) push the ultra traditional, blinged out affair, but there are lots of beautiful wedding sites that aren't about buying Swarovski encrusted cake knives that you'll only use once and custom printed paper napkins that no one will remember.

 

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One of the main reasons why I'd prefer a sapphire. 

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My wedding/engagement ring was my husband's late grandmother's.  Simple and free (and conscience-free too)!  My wedding day was the best day of my life.  I was lucky that my father had some money that he was willing to spend on my wedding.  I did not have a lavish wedding, but it was nice and elegant and I treasure the memories.  I agree that people over-emphasize the need to have incredibly expensive rings and weddings, but so long as they can afford it, I am not going to tell them how to spend their money (after all, this is a board on a website that sells high end makeup that nobody actually "needs")!  

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For a few of these reasons I limit my engagement ring fantasies to Etsy shops. Many of them use alternative stones (sapphires, moissanite, heritage diamonds) that don't contribute to the diamond monopoly or blood diamond industry, the prices are not grossly inflated, and you're supporting small business owners, and oftentimes, the arts. 

 

The wedding industry is its own animal. But the growing trend of DIY weddings is helping with that, I think. I helped my best friend construct all of her centerpieces and bouquets with faux flowers a couple of years ago. Not only did she save money, but it gave us hours of time to bond with one another, and I know the same applied with her mother and sisters. It was a really nice experience.

 

NOW for the pretties! I'm in a natural resources field, and a lot of the time I have to chose my makeup and accessories carefully to avoid female stereotypes. (ie no red lips when doing field work. It's a problem of its own.) That combined with just my general love of all things nature-inspired led me to this set:
Which is a moissanite .5 carat. I'd looked at bigger, flashier rings, but with the amount of dirt my hands attract, I decided that this style would look as elegant in an evening gown as it would with hiking boots and flannel-lined jeans. And it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside.

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I'd say that because of wedding blogs, the DIY route really took hold about 8 years ago and isn't going anywhere.

 

That luxe, hotel wedding is always going to be gorgeous, but I love the pretty, elegant weddings at a farm or inn or vineyard with all the little personal touches. They are so charming!

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I have a colored stone. It's not just diamonds that have ethical issues. I hope mine was mined ethically, but there's no way to know. Canadian diamonds are a great option for those concerned. If you live in the Western world, you have stuff produced in less then ideal ways. Let's be real. Hypocrisy is sad.

 

You might think it's gross, but these things ARE actually important to some women AND men, and they are not lesser for it. I couldn't have cared less about my wedding; my mom planned the whole thing without me. But I'm not going to apologize for wanting to get married or have an engagement ring.

 

My 10th is coming up and I'd love a 2ct emerald cut ring Smiley Happy. Not going to happen, but I can dream!

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Not a Debbie Downer, more like a Ramona Reality. Spot on.

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^ Agree 1,000% with this. Thank you. ♥

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I agree with your most of your comments, especially about the wedding industry. But at the same time it's kind of judgmental to talk about the consumerism of other people when you are a VIB Rouge. Smiley Happy

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