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Can we talk about Engagement Rings?

Off topic.. But I can't do my paper, my job keeps calling me with questions and distracting me like crazy (I took off to do this final today and it's getting nowhere...ugh)

Show me your pretty rings, or your dream rings Smiley Happy


This one is my dream ring:


....Yeah, I want to marry that ring.

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tension rings are so cool but i would still always worry about the diamond falling out!! even though i know that that is not a common issue.. it just seems so scary to me Smiley Surprised

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My bf and I went to a local jewelry show this year and this one vendor B.Tiff caught his eye because they work in stainless steel and their designs tend to be more on the clean-cut/linear line. There's definitely a very mechanical feel to their pieces and since he's a long-time mechanic and technical guy it instantly grabbed his attention.


They have some pretty nifty tension rings on their site:


There was no ring purchasing for us, but he did buy me a necklace, it's a circular stainless steel pendant with a silver cursive "L" on one side and on the other is another "L" but it's more etched in with a gem accent.

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Kudos to you Danny on the choice you and your man have made together. I definitely believe having a home is very important. Which for me and my guy we're going to work on a home before a wedding. 

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We also chose house over ring/wedding here as well!  My best friend had a lovely wedding, but I think overall that year about $20K was spent wedding related -- and that seems insane for my lifestyle, our earning level, etc.  I'm not judging, and it's totally up to an individual, but I'd rather save up for my dream house (and live in the cute little one we have now).


We also made the choice because we are in a nontraditional relationship, we didn't feel that traditional "marriage" was a good description of the life we were making. We're very in love and committed for the long term, we've been together about 5 years so far.  If we really grow apart or our lives take seriously different directions, or in 10 year we aren't right for one another/don't want the same things any more, we will re-evaluate; this means more to use than traditional marriage.  We also take a bit of a stand to call attention to marriage inequality (i.e. gay, and other marriage issues).


All of that being said, it's not meant to be a damper on this fun thread at all Smiley Wink, just a broadening of the discussion to play off what has already naturally come up in comments!  


On to the fun stuff ---


I had never heard of tension rings, and love some of the rings on here!  Neat.  I love ring "sets" where there is a band and a ring that fit or go together and perhaps both have stones, I like that "chunkier" band style.


I also love the ring that OP posted as her dream ring, really pretty and kind of "historic" looking to me, while still clean and modern overall.


Hate to sound like a downer AGAIN, but I can't deal with diamond mining/the diamond industry -- so I am hugely in favor of "recycling" the stones from a family ring if possible, or choosing something (probably not a diamond) that certifiably sourced.


I also heard about this cool charity where they accept donations of unwanted diamond rings (i.e. from a divorce) for a tax write off for the donor -- and then they make the stones available to people who are getting engaged.  AND a donation (the bulk of the value) goes to charity of their choice when the new couple buys a stone/ring.  This seemed really cool to me, and the realities of [avoiding supporting] diamond mining far outweigh any superstition for me of having a "used" stone.


Back to the fun stuff: I LOVE nontraditional rings and colored stones of all kinds as wedding/engagement rings.  So cool.  I particularly like yellow stones, and star sapphires.

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The proposal should definitely be a surprise. That doesn't mean engagement should be.


Amazingly, some people aren't so great about picking these kinds of things out and want to make sure their partner loves the ring they'll be wearing for the rest of their lives. It's a big purchase and I think it's completely acceptable to include your partner in it.


Going ring shopping with my husband didn't ruin anything. We knew we were getting married. We talked about it regularly. I picked my setting and my husband took it from there. I was still delighted and surprised when he proposed and presented me with the ring. Smiley Happy

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Good point on the proposal being a surprise. Knowing what the ring will look like is one thing, but NOT knowing when and where he'll surprise you with it and how he'll formally ask for your hand is what keeps you on the edge of your seat!

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It also took the jeweler a few weeks for to make the ring once he finished pick out the parts (I just picked the setting). 


I also learned that he was adamant about the proposal being it's own special day, so he avoided my birthday and holidays, which threw me through a loop. There were a few months between that day we when shopping and when he proposed. Smiley Happy

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I can't imagine loving someone enough to share a bathroom with him for the rest of time, but the ring?  Yeah, I know what I want.  Smiley Happy


Found the ring from a research for a story but have been in love with it since.

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There's the ring, I'm pasting the image direct for you Saturnwings because Beauty Talk doesn't allow outside links, but hey, this way we can all still see that bling!

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That's so pretty! Smiley Happy

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I totally forgot about that external links thing!  That's what I get for trying to do too many things at once.  Thanks for the assist, though.  You rock.


And isn't it a lovely ring?  I love that it's different from the traditional but still has that delicate, simple solitaire feel.


I'm not sure I could ever love anyone who would spend $4K on the setting of the ring alone (as opposed to something more practical), but I like to think that, if the time does ever come, I am sufficiently gracious and grateful instead of being an ingrate.

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I never really fantisized about weddings and all the glitz behind 'em. I always imagined myself kind of like what @dannyc said. Getting a home together is my number 1 "wish / need / EVERYTHING". Home is where the heart is Smiley Happy

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You and Dannyc need to rock this on a ring setting then, haha! Smiley Tongue

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To be completely honest I never owned a real piece of jewelry such as a diamond. Perhaps this is why I don't really care. Girl, dat ring be hideous! HAHA 

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I know right! BWAHAHH! It would scratch and skim over everything!!! I can't believe a photo even exists for that, I was just Googling for the heck of it to see if I could randomly find a home/diamond pic and bam!


I have an old heart necklace an ex gave me that's black and white diamonds but I don't wear it anymore, but when my bf and I started dating, he surprised me our first Christmas with a set of diamond accented hoop earrings. He even ninja'ed his way to message my cousin to get her opinion to make sure it would be something I like!



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That is hideous! 

Honestly though, I love our house & everything we put into it. We could be marries now living in a tiny condo or renting (eek!). Instead we have a home we can live in for at least 8 years & are still able to put money into savings & retirement every month. 


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I didn't either. I was never one to buy wedding magazines or look at wedding dresses online until we got engaged.


We also bought our house before we got engaged. It made sense with where the real estate market was at the time. 

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I dont have one, like dannyc said not really a major issue for me but if I did get one it would have to look vintage/original. 




i would be happy to have this on top of my band/or as my band


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That band is soooo darling! It's like a crown made of hearts! It's dainty and feminine, yet detailed enough where it definitely draws interest!

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It is so pretty, but I find no matter how many rings I buy or lust after I never wear them. A band is as far as I get. Washing dishes, chasing kids- its just something to get in my way. ONE DAY I hope to be one of those fancy ladies who get their nails done and wear fancy rings on all sorts of fingers lol.  

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I can't even tell you how many horror stories I've heard from friends and from folks they know who've taken off diamond rings to wash their hands and left them at the edge of the sink at public places or diamonds that have fallen out of settings....yikes!



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