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Because you are all so wonderful, I'm needing some shoulders to lean on right now

I just received word that my boyfriend's father passed away today and his family is totally flipped on their heads about the news.

 

He had no physical ailments other than troubled knees and he wasn't sick, but he was found this morning at his home.

 

My boyfriend and I live together and his family still resides in his hometown which is about 6 hours from where we are. He was able to hit the road already to make it over and I'm looking to get things at work settled enough where I can take days off.

 

The last time we spent time and saw his father was at Thanksgiving, his parents are divorced and though normally tension can be quite thick and moments can be quite awkward  when everyone is back together, this time things were very civil and calm. It was surprising how relaxed the atmosphere was and for once I could see my boyfriend and his sister not have to fret over which parent to spend what part of the holiday with what parent.

 

Even though he's not my father or my family by blood, he has accepted me with a loving heart since the day I met him and never hid the fact of how much he loved seeing his son with me being so happy.

 

Just needing some good vibes and thoughts right now, not just for myself, but more for my boyfriend and his family. Beauty Talk has never ceased to amaze me with how supportive and loving we all can be to one another and it's because of that which draws me to share this moment. Some of you might recall a year and a half back when my boyfriend's grandma passed due to Cancer, I'm just hoping that in a time like this I can still turn to you all. *hugs*

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Oh, gosh, Jen! My heart goes out to you as well for the news of the passing of your husband's Mom. When one person fills two roles it can be so amazing to show what they are capable of but in the time of passing it can be so devastating. Thank you for your support, I know there's only so much I can do in this time, but no matter what I want to make sure any opportunity I get to prove I'm here for him and for his family that I most certainly am.

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Thank you, as well, for your thoughts on my loss. <3

 

I am certain that your boyfriend and his family know that you are there for them. I doubt you'll have to do much to prove to them your support; just being there does that.

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Lean away - our shoulders are stronger than they look.  

 

I am so sorry to hear about your loss and will be sure to send comforting prayers and thoughts to your boyfriend and his family.

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Thank you, Kalex!

 

All the times of shopping and carrying Sephora bags filled with goodies help in a time like this to get those shoulder strong! Smiley Happy

 

 

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So sorry to hear this news.   Know Lylysa that we are here for you.  Any time you need to, just reach out to one of us,..... Either here or PM.   Sometimes, you just need someone to listen.

Hopefully his/your family will find peace and understanding.

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Thank you so much for the support, Plantgarden!

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Its sad to see and hear all these people pass away around you but until it hits home...its really sad. I lost my younger brother about 2 1/2 years ago and its still tough. Today wouldve been his 20th birthday :,( and since when a friends loved one passes...i dont have words to say. All i can say is to stay strong and be there for him. He needs it, he may act as if or say he doesnt but trust me. May he rest in peace. My thoughts your way <3

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May you find continued strength in your time as well. Thank you so much for sharing your personal moment with me along with your kindness.

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Ohhh, my thoughts & prayers are with you Lylysa!

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Thank you, Bfuller, your message is one that I will take to heart!

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I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your boyfriend are in my thoughts and prayers.

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lylysa, I am so, so sorry for your loss!  That is terrible news, and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your boyfriend. Many, many hugs to both of you.

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I am so sorry for your loss.  I know it's especially difficult to actually believe  because it was so sudden.  We have a hard time making sense of these things and it leaves us with so many emotions. Grief is a roller coaster ride.  Sometimes we feel anger, frustration, sadness in the course of a  day that also had us laughing, smiling and remembering.  It's all very normal and it's best to just go with the flow. 

  It truly is a blessing that you were able to have such a loving relationship with this man.  Take comfort in knowing that  the love never dies and it will always be with you.  The fact that you had this relationship with his dad will also bring comfort to your boyfriend because you both share this special bond . 

You, your boyfriend, and his family are in my good thoughts and prayers.  I wish you all peace and healing as you deal with this loss.  (((hugs)))

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I send love and warmth to you and your family and your boyfriend's family. never have I ever met a person as wonderful and informative and detailed and kind as you, and to see you die would just about kill me as well. that's the thing that makes me cry so much is that when your young you keep saying "I cant wait to grow up" you do things ahead of your age, you make mistakes and then you get to that age and say "wow" I cant believe I didn't listen to everyone when they said to enjoy this, to enjoy being young. no-none can ever say that everyone gets to live a full life. baby's die,children die,teenagers die, adults die. for all different causes and reasons, but as said as it is to watch someone leave this life, to no longer be able to talk them or see them, hug them. you have to know that when their time is over, god will hold them in his arms and they will be forever safe. I know why we are so afraid of dying, we don't think theyre is anything after we go into the ground and we are to afraid to let go of the life god left upon us and that is okay because he gave that to us for a reason. I am so so sorry for your loss but you have to know that he is looking over you right now, and he is up there with god safe and happy and not afraid. I hope you get through these hard times because we love you and I wish I could hug you and your family right now.

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So sorry to hear this. Losing a loved one is never an easy thing to go through. I'll be thinking of you and sending lots of prayers up for you, your bf, and his family. Hugs.

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Oh, Lylysa, I am so sorry for your loss and your boyfriend's loss. It must be so hard to have your own pain to manage while still staying strong for your boyfriend. Sudden loss like this is just so terribly sad. I'm glad you shared it with us, and I hope you will take a measure of comfort from all of us here. You are at the absolute heart of this community - so selfless and patient and kind. Please come back as much as you need, and we will be here with our shoulders squared! If you need someone to chat with or scream at or cry to, please feel free to PM me. Take care of yourself. You'll be in my thoughts.  **hugs**

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Aw, babe, I'm so sorry you and yours are going through this.  Will keep you in my thoughts and send much love your way. Heart

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So sorry. I lost my dad this past September. Even though we had known since the summer that it was coming it still sucked to see him go.

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Oh Lylysa, I'm so sorry for your boyfriend & your loss.  Losing a parent is never easy & I can only imagine how much harder it is when it is completely unexpected.  I'll keep y'all in my prayers over the coming weeks.  If you need an ear, just send me a message.  **hugs**

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Im really sorry you both are dealing with this.  My ex boyfriends father passed away about 6 weeks after we broke up.  We were together for 10 years, and I grew very close to his family.  It was bad enough that his father passed, but it was harder since I hadn't been around the family in those 6 weeks leading up to it. His father was older, but was in pretty good health and his passing was a shock for us all.  It's such a hard thing to deal with, and there's nothing I can say to make it easier.  But I will keep you both in my thoughts, and I hope you are able to focus on the happy times you all shared.

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I am so sorry girl! That is the worst! Surrounding you with lots of prayers and hugs!

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I am really sorry about your boyfriend's and your loss. I hope all the great memories of him help you get through this tough time. You will be in my thoughts.

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No one can be prepared for the loss of a parent.  Even though he was not related to you by blood, it sounds to me as though he was still your family, and I am sorry for what you are going through.  I'm sure you are being strong for your boyfriend, but please know that you have the support of your extended family here.  I have no doubt that there are many, many positive thoughts and prayers coming your way, including mine.

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Oh, lylysa, I am so sorry to hear your news and of course we are all here for you. Friday was the 2nd anniversary of my dad's death and it is still so hard sometimes. And it must be hard for you who loved him but can't be there right now, and hard not to know what's going on. Just grieve when you need to grieve and try to be understanding when your boyfriend's grief makes him do stupid things (I know I was grateful my husband did that for me.)

 

I hope you all get some answers about what happened. And I'm glad that you have friends around to hold you and just let you cry. I sat and watched my dad slowly go, knowing he was ready but my mom wasn't, and didn't sleep but couldn't even cry until after the funeral. I know for certain it's not good to hold it all in. 

 

Please come here when you need us and feel free to send a PM if you need someone to talk to.

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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  You are such a wonderful poster, always so upbeat.  I'm sorry you are so sad and hope you and your boyfriend and his family will find your way through this shock and loss and will feel comfort and happiness again soon.  I will be thinking of all of you. 

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