Beauty Pet Peeves 2

[veronika23]

The other thread was getting too long and difficult to load! 

So what are your beauty pet peeves? What grinds your gears? Share your stories!!!

[veronika23]

@AmdSephI read all the comments and I'm sorry but I think you are out of line. I believe the very first comment made about your use of the word Asian was very polite. Describes how I feel too.  You could have said thank you and I'll remove it from my comment.  Instead you attack everyone who has commented. While I don't agree with some of the comments made the very first one was polite and should have been enough to make you think twice. You could have said a snob... there was no reason to add Asian. You said it was to describe someone... yet I don't see how it describes them. Like I said it could have ended at snob.

I think taking a step back and really looking at how the world is and how some things you thought were ok are in fact not ok. Not everybody is raised the same or thought the same things and that's why we all need to keep learning and growing. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. I don't know how hard or easy that would be for you.... but you should try. I'm not talking about the person who served you or the people who commented. Just try to look at it from another perspective.

I also have to say that I take issue with the bullying.  Like I said I don't agree with some of the comments made but I don't consider this to be bullying.  Maybe blunt/direct or even rude but it's not bullying. Trust me I know what that's like. But I get it. None of us like it when people tell us we are wrong. Especially when worded in certain ways.

I think people are just frustrated because you don't seem to understand what your words mean, the impact it has... and if no one teaches you the implications or how it can affect others how are you going to know.

The world is on edge right now... makes people even more passionate about what they hold dear...

[mrsbaine]

There is literally only one person in this whole discussion who appears to be ignorant and I assure you it's not us. You should familiarize yourself with the rules of this forum; name calling gets you kicked off. You've already been reported by at least two people who personally told me they reported you. I'm about to make it three. Calling any of us "ignorants" is not only grammatically incorrect, but completely insensitive, and uncalled for. I think you need a time out. Self impose it before the mods force it. Relax. 

[Beadshopgirl]

I reported also. 

[jadeann]

Make that reported by FOUR people.

[txcatx]

After that last edit, here's five. 

[angel7594]

I saw the new edit as well, so now it is six.

[TriesToBoClassy]

You are so rude.

[angel7594]

I see you edited your post yet again, ArvSeph. Your behavior is so rude and uncalled for, not to mention embarrassing!

[AmdSeph]

@mrsbaine says the person who called other dk in other thread!

[heartsmyface]

@AmdSeph Hun, people are going to keep commenting as long as you keep it alive by responding and for as long as they have something to say on the matter.  You don't have to have the last word cause you're not going to get it.   That's the life of a thread.  For your good and everyone else's sanity just leave this thread for a while.  Continue on as per usual in other threads.  This will get buried after a week or so.  

And I implore, please don't carry this into other threads.  

[mrsbaine]

But I wasn't a racist. Win win for me @AmdSeph! 

[AmdSeph]

@mrsbaine So be Bty rather than racist? Whatever flows your mind.

Keep living in fantasy of win win?

[mrsbaine]

I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt... But your true colors are coming out. No one is bullying you. You're not winning friends here by being outrageous and rude.... 

[shimmerbait]

It's interesting to me to see the odd swords people are willing to fall on. Like, just stop. It's not cute and you sure aren't triggering anyone but yourself. 

[heartsmyface]

Okay, so after reading through the thread, I feel that you're either missing the point or are unable to be corrected.  I'm hoping you just had a kneejerk reaction to constructive critism. 

You unnecessarily attached an ethnic background as a descriptor of a person you were describing in a negative light and it came across the wrong way.  Maybe you're a super visual person and you were just describing what you saw.  Fine if you are, but I am hoping you have a track record for stating the ethnicticity of every person you talk about to back that up.  If not it was unintentionally racially derogatory.  

The ladies here tried to explain why it was offensive and all you needed to say was 'oops that's not how I meant to come across.  My mistake". It would have been over.  

Instead you decided to take offence to their offence.  How can you expect people to value your stance when you can't value theirs?  Take a step back and take note of what everyone is trying to convey.  There is no bullying going on- just a bunch of fellow BTers trying to help you see the light.  

[jadeann]

The only person who is being a bully, @AmdSeph, is YOU. 

[volta]

Youtube and its (sometimes) blind followers:

I'm an esthetician and I had a client come to me a few years back who was bothered by her breakouts but when I asked her about what she does, she instantly became defensive over the fact that I asked her how many times she washed her face. She only washed it once a day because she said someone on youtube said they only wash their face once a day. OH and she went to bed with her makeup on and only washed it in the morning because that's what the same person on youtube said she did. She absolutely REFUSED to do anything that this youtuber didn't do. I asked for the youtube channel. This girl was clearly not a skincare expert and shouldn't be making those kinds of recommendations. She didn't have perfect skin (or makeup skills) but I'm not one to judge. Just don't go to see someone trained in the field for years and then COMPLETELY refuse any of our advice when we offer it to you! It's just disrespectful! Unfortunately, she wasn't the first person to be like this!

[veronika23]

@volta  totally understand how this can be frustrating... I remember one year this girl showed people how to make mascara with Oreo's??? Like what??? OMG I hate the whole youtube crowd... I don't get it. I only like Kandee J and Wayne Goss.  At least they are professionals.

I also wanna point out thank god for estheticians! I don't know what I would do without mine!!! 😄

[volta]

@veronika23  I always say that the best youtube makeup artists are the ones who do makeup on many different types of people. You really can't judge a person's caliber if you only see them doing their own makeup. I guarantee you that doing someone else's makeup is a WHOLE different ballpark than just doing your own. Many-a-makeup artists I have known and trained have been put in their place when it comes to that fact. I do have respect for WG for that reason. Don't get me wrong, I think Kandee has an adorable look, but sometimes her overly enthusiastic attitude can seem a bit overwhelming for me LOL

[veronika23]

@volta  Oh trust me I know how different it is to do someone else's makeup. 😉

Yeah I get that Kandee's bubbly personality isn't for everyone... I like it though 🙂

[volta]

@veronika23Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with that. I tend to be bubbly when I deal with clients because that's the way I do business. However, I know that I am a completely person off the clock so when I see someone who also acts extremely bubbly, it's kind of hard for me to tell if the person is being genuine or not because that's the act I play too.