knadala

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Hi all!

 

So totally random, but I wanted to vent a little and give everyone a platform to vent as well :smileyhappy: I think that letting out your feelings is a healthy way to grow and move past the stuff that is bothering you, whether it is a big deal or something small that just gets under your skin.

 

Here are a few things bugging me this week...

 

1. Office politics, while I am currently free of this issue on a personal level, I see it all around me. People who use their power and/or connections to mess up other people who work hard and deserve better; it's usually out of jealousy or some insecurity. So sad that we deal with this as a adults on such an immature level.

 

2. Calling Kaiser customer service; I have called them about 8 times now and every time I wait about 7 minutes (to an annoying repetitive message), then they tell me to hang up and try again because the call volume is too high. I understand that customer service numbers can be notorious for sucking at the very purpose they serve, but to hang up on me every time and not give me a chance to speak to someone is upsetting. The doctor found a tiny round ball in my breast and I need to call about the cost of an ultrasound under my coverage, so I'm even more upset. I have a packed schedule so I don't have the luxury of walking into Kaiser and finding someone to help me. I guess I will have to wait another month before getting my info :smileysad:

 

3. Lastly, my daily 2 hour and 15 minute commute to work. Boy I'm tired, I wake up when it's still dark and almost never get home while it's still light out. I am extremely lucky to work at a great company, with a great boss, in the heart of San Francisco...but I'm exhausted every day. My lease ends in 4 months, so this torture is temporary.

 

Thank you for letting me put my mess out there! I feel a lot better.

 

Feel free to vent your frustrations!

knadala

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Thank you :smileyhappy:

 

 

annypoo

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So just a couple days ago I decided I wanted to apply for my MBA fall semester. Applications were opened Oct 1 and due April 1. I've already missed 4 months of preparation time, and I have to take a GMAT test and a write an essay. The GMAT scores are out within 20 days of taking the test and I'm taking it on March 11 which means scores will be out March 31. ONE DAY FROM DEADLINE. MAKES ME NERVOUSSS. I didn't have any test date options since many spots are already full. Aside from that, I only have 5 weeks to study for this test when people usually take months!! Stressin' over here.

 

Also my boyfriend and our friend is celebrating their birthday this weekend with a dinner and somehow I got stuck planning it.  It's said to be both my boyfriend's and friend's birthday dinner but it feels more like our friend's than my boyfriend's. (My boyfriend could care less to go or not). Then my friend keeps calling me and adding people to the list so I keep having to call the restaurant to change the reservations. I understand him wanting his friends to go, but does he need all their girlfriends, brothers, etc. too? Our party is getting so large I don't even know if they can fit us in one table. What's the point of a birthday dinner if we're all split up?

 

Okay. Rant done. Was a little bit annoyed, whew.

knadala

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That sucks, I think it wouldn't be so bad if your friend was more considerate and didn't forget the whole point of the celebration in the first place; to be together on a special occasion.

dianabt

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Ugh Kaiser services are TERRIBLE. I call an outside division to order medical supplies I need for a daily basis to survive and its impossible to reach a real person. You just go in a circle of voicemails. I once had to wait 2 weeks for my items when the delivery is supposed to be overnighted. :smileysad: I hope your ultrasound goes well and all is ok!!

 

I can't imagine driving here to SF everyday, It takes me 45 minutes to an hour just to get from my end of the city to downtown as well- 2 hours though! 

 

@latinadiva I get that too "whats wrong, you look mad?" no.. i'm actually fine LOL.

@MGJM student loans are such a pain.. I'm still paying mine off it feels like its never going to leave me lol

Luv&Lipgloss, Diana
knadala

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Thank you, I hope it goes well too.

 

I still love working in SF, especially since I work in the same building as the Benefit Cosmetics headquarters :smileyhappy:

 

 

bratknits

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Kaiser Permanente has their sample costs and coverage lists online with pricing.  Just google Kaiser with the name of your specific plan and breast ultrasound.  Should pop right up as a pdf near the top.

MGJM

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Student loans.....enough said.

 

I hope everything with Kaiser gets better.  Sending you positive vibes.

feline5190

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Yeah student loans are not fun.  I have 6 figures in student loan debt so I feel your pain.  But I guess it's taught me to just live in the moment and not worry too much about the future (otherwise I would be worrying about the insurmountable debt load that will be here for quite some time, lol)

knadala

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Thank you :smileyhappy:

latinadiva

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First off, prayers to you that your ultrasound comes up clean. I went through the same experience a few years ago and it is terrifying so I know your pain.

 

To my vent, and ironically it just came up today, I am probably the introvert of all introverts, which is why I love being on BT all the time! That being said, I posted an article from BuzzFeed called "21 Things Introverts are Tired of Hearing" on my Facebook. My friend commented with "lol #4 - I always thought you were angry" (for reference, #4 was "Why do you always look so annoyed?") I so badly wanted to be like seriously, did you even read the article?? I get so frustrated constantly having to defend myself that I'm not angry, I'm not upset, I'm not being mean, it's just me. Should I sit when I'm not in conversation with anyone and give myself a good cheesy grin?? It seems like as an introvert, people always want you to live how they think you should live. Just because you only know what it is like to be an extrovert doesn't mean I'm automatically a miserable and rude person as an introvert. And they never understand the irony that we are not angry, but when you proceed to insist that we are and push us to cheer up or tell you what is wrong, we will then become angry because you are implying that you know us better than we know ourselves. Ugh, I can't stand it. #endrant

DiVWA

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Your vent made me think of this book I read last year called "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking." I think you'd enjoy the book. (It's out long enough that it's pretty much at most libraries.)

latinadiva

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Oh my gosh, I need to read that!!! My Kindle is finding me that book tonight!

feline5190

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Yeah being told to smile or being asked why the look of annoyance is the worst.  Having to consciously be aware of my facial expressions (which is what I have to do to keep people off my case) is exhausting.  And social interaction in general is exhausting.  That's why I've found that for me, sufficient alone time is a much needed requirement in my life. 

 

Probably the worst experience I've had with this is when one time I was sitting with a group of about 7 people whom I really didn't know very well (an anxiety filled experience to begin with) at a fast food restaurant.  I was sitting quietly and I guess had a blank expression on my face, because out of nowhere the girl across from me snapped her fingers about an inch from my face.  For me, it was extremely embarrassing and condescending.  But I try to to embrace situations like this, because it teaches me how to best conduct myself in social situations (while also trying to remain true to myself).    

latinadiva

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When I was in college, I had gotten into an argument with my roommate because she ditched me for her boyfriend, so I asked her to talk it out. At that time, her and another of my roommates came in and basically intervention-style told me that they ditch me constantly because I always looked like I was miserable and in a bad mood so they would rather hang out with other people. That was probably the worst it had been and I cried miserably that night. I found myself acting how girls "want you to act" after the fact (agreeing with everything they say, putting them on a pedestal, blah blah) but I felt like I was not myself....but it was only then that we got along...

 

In the more recent year, my entire relationship with my ex was probably the worst with a guy. The situation in college was with girls, and I've always gotten along better with guys because...guys don't need me to agree with them and put them on a pedestal. I've mentioned our situation on BT plenty of times before, clearly I annoyingly still have not gotten over it months later, but he was just as much an introvert as I was, which I thought would help that he understood my need for alone time and my shyness. Our break up was literally him pointing out every introvert quality and how it was a problem. He claimed he tried really hard to overcome those qualities in himself but I can assure you he was not a talkative, outgoing person so he was not successful despite his beliefs. He would legit break down a situation saying this is how I should have answered someones questions, this is how I should have been behaving in a social situation, which was insane. To me, he has much bigger problems that being an introvert to do that, but it has just turned me into even more of a hermit and I'm so much more conscious of what I say or how talkative I am or my facial expression, but that is also a frustrating thing to have to do...

feline5190

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Your college situation reminds me of a time in college when my roommate ditched me (she said she was going to find out where the party was and then she would let me know so would could both go).  But she never came back.  And she didn't even have the decency to explain why.  I like to get things out in the open, so I asked my other roommate what the deal was and all she would say was 'she wants you to find your own parties.'  

 

I've had people tell me I'm a downer or imply it, and I honestly can't blame them too much because I know I'm not a party person.  Unfortunately, hearing things like that sometimes reinforces it.  I can understand how you would be able to get along better with guys.  I literally have no female friends (I have before in the past, but the friendships all ended due to many different things).  Not looking for sympathy, just trying to explain how it can be difficult for introverted females to have other female friends (or friends in general).  I've been in relationships like the one you were in, and they were very problematic, because the last thing a sensitive or introverted person needs is someone who nit picks over things that are out of a person's control.  My current boyfriend, while far from perfect, is very accepting of who I am which is very important. 

latinadiva

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Yeah, I get told I am a downer or a "grump" (my mom's favorite) constantly. My own family does it constantly, clearly by my mom's favorite term. My mom will go as far as to jokingly growl at me when she thinks I have a "mean" response with an attitude. And people constantly saying it will only make it worse. 

feline5190

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In addition to Quiet, The Introvert Advantage is another good book

katie1724

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I had at least 3 people send me that article (I'm a textbook introvert) and I agreed with every one of the points. "Can I join you?" seriously strikes fear into my heart…and if I had a dime for every time someone said, "Smile! It can't be that bad!" or "Are you…okay?" I would be a very wealthy person. I think I also suffer from a bad case of B!tchy Resting Face (have you seen the video? Hahahahha) -- I think I must just look mean. 

 

:smileyhappy:

DiVWA

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I hate the "Smile" people. As if they need reassurance that you aren't personally mad at them or something. I hear "you look tired" from some people too, even when I'm not. I actually think I smile too much sometimes (as sometimes women are accused of doing) so it makes me bristle whenever I get the "Smile" suggestion.

feline5190

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I think people (extroverts especially) get uncomfortable or feel a sense of unease if an introvert is especially quiet or not smiling or something.  So they blurt out 'why aren't you smiling'.  I don't know- it continues to confuse me because personally I like the company of other quiet, thoughtful people.  Unfortunately there's also an expectation for women to be more smiley and bubbly.  Men can be laid-back and chill and won't get hyper-focused on nearly as often as a woman who is acting the same way. 

latinadiva

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Exactly why I thought my ex and I would work well but clearly did not. To this day, I hate that he felt it was okay for him to have those qualities and not me, because as much as he continues to think he is not quiet or anti-social, when you show up to a dinner with several of my family members and don't even say hi, that certainly is not you channeling your energy to be a more outgoing person lol but am I going to judge you for it? The way you judge me for responding with "I'm doing well?" to your friend who I just met two minutes prior asking "How are you?" No, I will not.

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