neko333

Getting mistaken for being younger/older

I think most people are pretty happy about getting mistaken about being younger. I'm not exactly mad about it, but I always wonder why. I'm sure this will pay off later in life but being 20 and getting mistaken for 13 is amusing.

 

I went out to eat with my Dad onetime and this guy was cursing at a nearby table. The woman told him to be quiet because there were kids in here. I was the youngest person in there. When I asked her about it she said she thought i was 13 and I laughed. I would say this was only because I was with my Dad but some of my friends have even misplaced my age. They initially guess 16, I guess because I have a car they couldn't assume any younger.

 

 

About the only time I've been mistaken as older is when I was 14 and a lifeguard hit on me. He was probably about 18 and I couldn't figure out why he was so interested in a kid. I told him my age and he ran away like Chris Hansen was going to slide down the water slide and arrest him. 

 

I'm not exactly short (5'7) but I do have a petite frame. I thought this was all quite funny until I realized I often wear dresses, high heels, and makeup. Then I began to wonder if I look like a kid trying hard to dress like an adult. Kind of like when you were little and you put on stuff from your Mom's closet. I'm not sure if I should still find it funny or be horrified. 

 

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IllegallyBlonde

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I didn't want to guess, so I asked my boyfriend what he thought. He said 22 lol

ladymeag

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I'm gonna go with 25.

sephoramusthave

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I get mistaken for younger all the time ( I'm 25). But I like it because it means that all that money/effort spent on skincare the past few years were worth it :smileyvery-happy:

 

I've never been able to order a drink without getting carded. I'm attending a work Christmas party at a restaurant this Sunday so we'll see what happens there lol.

 

I remember in high school when I was trying to get some extra money babysitting I would get comment like " I'm not sure if I can trust a 13 year old" ( and I was 16!).

 

My mom is 45, will be 46 next month and gets mistaken for early 30's all the time. Good genes help too :smileyvery-happy:

 

 

 

MoreGun89

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Eyeliner is a magical thing.  I tried an experiment over the course of a couple days to verify makeups aging vs youthifying effects.  I went to the same lounge for this at different times so the staff wouldn't recognize me.  I started going with full makeup except no eyeliner.  Every time, I was not asked for my ID.  When I added eyeliner into the equation I was asked for it 75% of the time.

 

Perhaps I have an ambiguously aged face?  But seriously, the way and style in which you apply your makeup can have a huge effect on how old or young you are perceived to be.

gem5136

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I feel your pain. I'm 25 with two kids and when I was pregnant with my first (at 23) my husband treated me to a spa day. My masseuse asked if I was out of school for the day and I said no I graduated last year and then she asked if I had any plans on college after the baby was born. I had to tell her I had graduated college last year, she didNt believe me. When I was student teaching I was stopped by hall monitors for the first month to see my bathroom pass :/ one escorted me to the office because he didn't believe I was teaching ( he was embarrassed). Now when I'm out with my girls I get asked if I'm the nanny. I know someday I will enjoy looking young :smileyhappy: 

yazmin

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Im 24, and a neighbor who claimed to know me and my family, was talking to me about the city 40 years ago, & i was standing there confused.. until I told him I wasn't even born & he said I looked mature for my age... (I had done my makeup that morning to go out for the day) - Foundation, blush, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, countouring, the whole deal

 

One day going to the post office in sweats- with only foundation, eyeliner, mascara and blush. the bare minimum, and it was a school day and the police stopped me... asking where I was going and why wasn't I in school.... and I wasn't answering until they asked me what school I went to.. and I said "O I go to (....) College. " and I kept walking away.

 

BeautyLove02

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Oh wow all you girls are so lucky! I don't really get called out on way or the other for being older or younger. I'm 27 and I feel like I look older...maybe its just my being self-conscious. I've been really scared lately of looking older. Just last night I looked in the mirror (really looked) and started crying because I'm getting wrinkles under my eyes, crow's feet, AND 11's between my brows, Out of nowhere! I know its stupid and narcissistic, but I was so upset. My daughter said, "But you're a MOM". Ugh. So...I probably get mistaken for my age or older. 

killahbabe

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I'm 27 but I always get mistaken for a 16-17 year old. I just recently had my 6-month dental check-up and I was with the new dental hygenist. She was asking me different questions and when I started an answer with: "Me and my husband..." She stopped me dead in my tracks and said: "Your husband?! You're too young to be married!" I said: "I don't know about that... I'm 27." She then squirted water across the room (apparently I shocked her) and said: "No way!" Turns out, I'm several years OLDER than her.

IllegallyBlonde

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That would have pissed me off. If I'm already married, how DARE you say anything about my marriage, regardless of your opinions? Ugh! People.

killahbabe

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I get the "you're too young to be married" bit all the time. I don't quite understand it but it's kind of too late... I'm already married so telling me I'm too young isn't really going to change anything. haha.

ladymeag

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I'm 31. I have two kids. I was in Costco with my younger child (he was three then, I was 30) and had a guy stop me to chew me out for the irresponsibility of being a "teen parent." I was completely baffled and said, "Uh, that's an interesting theory that I don't share but I'm not a teenager." And he responded that I must have been when I had my child and I said, "Not even close, I was 27." Dude wouldn't believe me. My spouse has been clucked at a few times for "being that older guy with a younger woman." Uh, we don't have an age gap - everyone always thinks he's older, though (it must be the salt-and-pepper beard) and I'm younger. He got chewed out once at a movie theater by a woman about "having a girlfriend young enough to be your daughter!" I was 25.

The strange thing, though, is that when I was younger, I was frequently mistaken for being older. I was carded the first time for club entry when I was 23 - no one had ever asked before, so I was kind of surprised. I wound up on a few dates with people that thought I was older than I was and spooked them when I mentioned my age (legal but younger than they thought.) 

Honestly, while being mistaken for being younger can be flattering, it comes with a host of other issues. People aren't particularly nice to people they perceive as younger who drive a newer car, carry a designer purse, look put-together, have kids, have an age-appropriate spouse, want to sign for a loan or mortgage, and a host of other things. People feel entitled to give opinions to younger folks that they have no business giving unasked and if you look younger, you'll get that treatment as well. 

All that said, I'd rather be told I looked a few years older than my age than be asked if I feel well or told I look "tired." The "are you feeling okay" and "you look tired" feel so pitiful! 

IllegallyBlonde

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Exactly! I thought i was the only one who shared these feelings. Constantly, I hear "OMG, you're 25?! I thought you were 17! Well, you'll appreciate it when you're older." It's not all about looks, it's about treating people as equals.

I've even lost out on several jobs because the employer said I looked too young for my age and it would look bad to clients :smileysad:

IllegallyBlonde

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 I'm 25 and everybody thinks I'm still 18-19. I guess I should like it but I can't STAND it, especially when it comes to work. I work hard, and want to be seen as a professional, but I'm constantly talked down to even by peers (until they learn my true age -- the difference is night and day and it is really sad.) it also bothers me that people assume I'm too young to be so serious with my boyfriend (oh you guys are only teenagers, you shouldn't be talking about rings yet.) MYOB! :smileymad:

cutiecocolove

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when i was a little younger, i went to the mall with my mom. she went into a store and i was tired so i sat down and played some games on my ipod. for some weird reason i got these looks from guys and i was approached by these people and they were like "are you in high school" umm no. not even close.... so yeah. im really tall for my age and i tend to have a more "fancy wardrobe" private school. you get judged on a lot. but the girls have to makeup sense. tsk tsk. sorry veered off course.

thesupergirl

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I'm 23 almost 24 and people think I'm 13. I cut my hair a while bak and added bangs now people think I'm 16. Plus I think everything I have gotten at sephora has helped me stay youthful looking.

hypnoticpoise

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cliché ahead- To those getting mistaken for being younger than they are, enjoy it while it lasts. lol  When I was actually under 18 I was thought to be my age or older, but in my 20's, especially mid to late 20's I was mistaken for younger, as young as high school age *WOOHOO* lol. I love that. Now in my early 30's I'd settle for looking in my early 20's.

emilime

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I'm 15 and turning 16 this year, and just about everyone I've met thought I looked about 8! (which is ridiculous, because I definitely do not think I look 8!!!!) It's so embarrassing!! Even with makeup on! So adults are like "Aren't you a cutie, being friends with the big kids and all!" :/ Even in my pictures I don't look that young LOL

waterbaby1981

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Hahaha, I'm 31 and get carded still.  At the Sephora in JCPenney by my house, one of the girls I was a cheerleader with my senior year said she knew I was older than her, but I didn't look older than 18!  She then asked my secret (Clinique Laser Focus Repairwear and the matching eye cream or Algenist Lifting/Firming Serum).  Coming from someone I knew, that was SUCH a confidence boost, especially since I had just had Ashley and few months prior.

 

When I was 28 my mom, younger sister (25) and I went gambling at Lucky Eagle Casino in Rochester, WA.  My mom and sister walked ahead of me and past security with no problem.  Me?  Security asked to see my ID.  You should've seen the look on my sister's face when they asked me what happened.  You could've possibly seen steam coming out of her ears when she complained that SHE was younger and why didn't they card her?

LKuhle

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I get this all the time. I'm 24, but people always think I'm 18/19. I always get asked if I'm even old enough to drink. If I'm not wearing make up then that drops to 16, lol. I guess my young face is something I'll love when I'm older!

lovelyred139

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I have this problem (mistaken for being younger).  I'm 24 and I know I don't even look 18.  Thankfully I work at a school where the undergraduates wouldn't dream of being disrespectful based on appearances, but in a different environment it could cause serious issues.  It's honestly why I started experimenting with makeup.  I wanted to find a way to age up my look a little bit without spend a fortune on clothing.

 

It drives my boyfriend crazy, because as a bearded fellow he's rarely carded unless he's in my company.  We're both non-drivers, but he never bothered to get a state ID and rarely carries his passport, whereas I've always got my state ID, my state liquor ID (it's a Massachusetts thing, I guess Boston has a lot of non-driving youths), and my passport on me, so if we go out and I order alcohol it usually means he won't get to drink.

Missie772

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I am 28 and am one of the youngest in my group of friends. I have gotten carded quite a few times... and in my drivers license, I had caramel highlights in (my hair is now my natural color) so many bouncers/bartenders/servers, etc thinks that it is a fake.

 

Last weekend I actually forgot my ID when going out to dinner with my girlfriends. But considering that all of us are in our late 20s and early 30s, he asked me a few simple questions- my birthday, what year I graduated high school, and how old I was when 9/11 attacks happened. Most people can lie and add a few years to their birth year, but cannot lie fast enough about when they actually graduated high school and how old they were during the attacks. Most people know their actual graduation year and how old they actually were during 9/11. I got the answers right and I got to drink my sangria YAY!!! :smileyvery-happy:

 

Last year after I got married, we all decided to go out to the bars in my hometown for the after party (our entire wedding party including me and the hubs in my wedding dress and tux). I however did not have my wallet or any identification on me and the bar didn't want to let me in. But it was an 19 and over bar. My bridal party was getting mad at the bouncer saying that I had graduated law school school and was a lawyer and trying to bribe him to let me in. Everyone was in their 20s and 30s... and people were like really, do you think she is 18 or under and she is in her wedding dress come on???

 

The bouncer got the manager and I was like- I used to work here (I was a cocktail waitress in 2004-2006). He got an attitude with me saying that he has been working there since 2008 and he has never seen me before in his life. I was yes, because I had already graduated college in 2007 and moved away from here when you even started! I told him to call Jimmy (the owner and my friend's father who owned the bar) and he still was skeptical, even when she came up to talk with him!!! Her father owns the bar!! It wasn't until my father's friends (who were in their 50-60s) who decided to come with us saw the commotion and made the bouncer let me in. He said that he was the Vice President of the Chamber of Commerce, that my father was the President and he promises on the seal of our city that I was over 21 and that he wasn't going to get in trouble for letting me in and that the city wasn't going to take away the bar's liquor license! CRAZINESS!

 

The stupid bouncer let me in and stamped me "under" and marked two big Xs on my hands so I couldn't even drink.... I washed them off immediately!! Someone takes their job super seriously!!!

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