Getting Personal

katimae

Getting Personal

I just wanted to tell you guys how much you help me out.  I suffer from EXTREME Depressive Disorder. I'm actually on Disability for it even though I was able to get a Degree with a Concentration and 2 Minors at NCState and work till I was 30.  This board has helped me to interact with other people instead of going into myself. It''s gotten me to get up, get dressed, AND put makeup on :smileywink:, and laugh (really hard).  I even got to do something for someone else with TSB and went out to the Post Office twice that day (my parents were in shock I think :smileyhappy:  So I just wanted to thank you so much for just being apart of this board because if you wern't on it, it wouldn't be the same!

mjfanforlife

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hey katimae! thank you so much for the advice youve given me i feel more confindent and smile when i look at myself in the mirror becuase of you and evreyone else whos given me advice. god bess you and god bless beauty talk!:smileyvery-happy:

tenngal

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My family and I are going to Orlando, Florida in August to Universal Studios, Islands of Adventure, etc., and I'm excited.  The problem is that I'm scared stiff because my husband and I are going to fly down while the rest of the family drives down cause there's not enough room for all of us to fit (along with all the luggage) in my daughter's SUV.  I have never flown before and have always said I never would unless I had to.  Well, this falls under the "have to" case because it's a lot cheaper than renting a car so if we want to go on this vacation at all, then flying is the only affordable option we've been able to come up with.  Anyway, I guess I just need a good pep talk from any of you who have flown before.  I was going to start a thread about "airplane travel" but I was afraid that there would be a lot of horror stories posted about other's flying experiences and I'm not wanting to hear any nightmare stories about air travel...I'm looking for a little encouragement so, please, don't tell me about bad experiences, ha ha.  Seriously, I'm afraid that I'll hold my breath through the whole flight and suffocate!  I know that sounds crazy, but I'm really terrified about the idea of flying so I don't know what I'm going to do when I actually have to get on the plane!  I've flown in a helicopter before and loved it, but that was a lot closer to the ground, ha ha.  Anyway, thanks for listening, my friends.  Any happy and encouraging replies would be appreciated very much...:smileyhappy:

katimae

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@TennG:  My Girl, if I can put up  a picture of my ffat back for all to see we can get you to fly :smileywink:  I, like many others, have been flying since I was young.  First back from Disney in 2nd grade (we took a train down and that was fun)with my family  and then in 3rd grade to take my bro around to look at colleges (I think that was only Boston)(he's the smart one)  Then when my Bro came home one summer he took private pilot lessons, I was flying those little planes at the age13.  In fact that's how we found out I needed glasses! :smileysurprised: Then he took stunt pilots lessons without telling our mom, and that was fun! But as others have said I flew by myself across the country at 14 when my Bro was at Stanford for graduate school and it was fine.  Personally I like the window seat b/c I can lay my head on it and fall right to sleep. I have flown A LOT in my life; Between work when I was young and the fact my college was flying time away from home. I have NEVER had even the slightest mishap. Even doing barrel rolls in a small Cessna with my Brother.  I'm trying to remember if you were the one that hadn't read the Twilight books yet. If you haven't read them then!  It will totally distract you.  Or if you have, read them again or get something else you heard is absorbing. My Mom is reading "Water for Elephants" and says its good.  I say read Twighlight.

tenngal

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@mermadelove:  Thanks for the medicinal RN advice!  You're right, I don't want to be zonked out the first couple of days of my vacation, ha ha! :smileyhappy:

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@katimae:  You make flying sound like a breeze!  OMG, I can't believe you went stunt-flying!  If you can do that, my soul-sister, then surely I can stand a less than 2 hour flight! :smileyhappy:

milbank

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@ tenngal: Just remember how much fun the entire family is going to have on vacation! We did the same thing in December of last year, and we all hope to have the funds to do it again sometime! I have flown allot and for long distances (from Texas to Australia was the longest) and it's really no biggie. I think if your in the isle seat, it's easy to forget that your on a plane if you've got the distraction of a good book or a fun game on your phone.  It is true that flying is much safer than driving.  Actually, taking off is kinda fun (I know it sounds childish, but fast is fun).  Don't forget about the people watching! One last bit of advice, on the longer flights, I typically take a benadryl and just snooze. The flight is over in no time and you've had a nap and you're ready to tear up Florida!

katie1724

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I feel your pain, Tenngal! While flying is something I still generally do not enjoy, I used to have a completely crippling fear of it (to the point where I would avoid it at all costs domestically and drive to DC for overseas flights to avoid a connecting flight, which is ridiculous), and it really has only been within the past year or two that it has not been a complete panic-inducing experience. (At some point, while sobbing as an Air France flight attendant held my hands (at 28 -- true story) I decided enough was enough, and I was not going to let my fear have control over me anymore!)

 

While generally not a fan of quick fixes (!), I am an advocate of meds in this instance -- however, see how it goes for you first! You may be surprised by how easy it is, and that you do not need any meds. For me, it makes me slightly more relaxed without knocking me out (as my doctor once pointed out, you want to have your wits about you at all times, even if you take something to help you relax). If you do not want to take anything, I highly recommend bringing magazines or a book that you know will hold your attention (sometimes I am too jittery to focus, so it has to be a really good book for me to be able to read -- but magazines are a good distraction). I also always bring my ipod or laptop. If you get nervous or start to panic, focus on the outcome -- imagine landing, meeting your family, going to Universal Studios -- it helps, trust me! It will help that your husband will be with you.

 

I think you are lucky that it is not a long haul flight, too -- by the time you get up in the air, it really will not be that long before you land! I hope you enjoy yourself and your family time :smileyhappy:

tenngal

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You all are so nice to take the time to give me all this great air travel advice and the pep talks!  I have avoided flying my entire life, even when the company I worked for was paying for me to fly for training courses, I would rent a car instead and drive all day to avoid flying.  One time a company I worked for was sending me to Atlanta on short notice for a seminar and (since I wouldn't fly) I had to rent the only vehicle left in town which was a big luxury van that had a TV, a bed, table, curtains over the windows and seemed like it was 10 miles long, ha ha.  I cracked my head open on the TV first thing before I even started driving, ha ha.  My husband couldn't go with me so my mother rode with me and my daughter who was only about 2 years old then.  I had to drive at night through fog and construction zones and my mother had to run to the back of the van to look through the curtains to tell me if it was clear to change lanes, ha ha.  By the way, she cracked her head open on the TV, too, and my toddler cried through half the drive, ha ha.  Looking back on it now it seems pretty comical, but it was a horrible experience and all because of my fear of flying,  I have had other loooong driving experiences due to my fear of flying, so I'm hoping that I will get over my fear once I've actually flown.  However, my friend has never gotten over her fear and has to drug up and feels like she can't breathe every single time she flies.  I guess I'll find out how I react soon enough.  At least the flight is non-stop and the family is driving our luggage down so I will only have a carry-on with my makeup.  I would send that with them, too, except that they are leaving 2 days before us to stop in St. Augustine on their way to Orlando.  At the rate I'm reading Under The Dome, I will have to find another good book to read on the flight.  I plan to put hubby by the window and I'll sit in the aisle seat.  The particular plane we are taking has a row of 2 seats side-by-side and then the aisle, then a row of 3 seats side-by-side.  So at least my husband and I will be sitting side-by-side without anybody else right there with us too close while I'm freaking out, ha ha.  Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks again to all of you for your kind words of encouragement. 
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mermadelove

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You've gotten some great advice! I just wanted to add that Dramamnie and Benadryl are both antihistamines, and they will both make you sleepy. So if you have to choose one over the other, take the Dramamine--don't take both or else you will be super dehydrated and zonked out! Your friendly Beauty Talk RN!!!

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HAVE FUN!!!!!

ohhenri

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@Tenngal: First time I took the plane, I was 14 and on my own. It was a pretty long flight too (6 hours) and everything went well. The flight attendants were great, so were the other passengers!! I've been traveling a lot (well, not that much, but all is relative!!) since that 1st time, and I never even pass through a turbulence zone (it can get a little shaky, but it never required the emergency system!!). All you need to do is bring stuff that can keep your mind off your fear, like a book, or music, or movie.

 

Also, as prettyinpa said, it much safer to flight than take a car. There's actually less death caused by plane crash than by car accident (it's proven), if that can re-assure you. Plus, you're not alone, your husband will be with you :smileyvery-happy:


Good luck! And have fun on vacations!!

tenngal

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@prettyinpa, maltipoo66 and ohhenri:  Thanks, my friends, for the pep talk.  I appreciate all the advice on how to keep myself occupied and to stay calm.  I kind of thought that an aisle seat might be better for me than a window seat, but now I'm sure of it after reading your all's posts.  Maybe if I get brave I'll try looking out the window, but otherwise I'm going to try to sit and pretend that I'm just sitting somewhere reading a book...business as usual, ha ha.  I keep trying to look on the bright side, which is that the flight is only a little over an hour and a half and it is non-stop, but the fear takes hold every time I start thinking about it too much.  Thanks, again, for all of your great advice.  I knew I could count on my Beauty Talk gals to help out!
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By the way, I also have the very important dilemma of trying to figure out what kind of makeup and skincare products I can take as a carry-on on the plane, ha ha.  I know airport rules are very strict, but I've got to have my makeup!!! LOL  I'll have to print out the guidelines soon so I can start working on filling my Caboodle with airplane-friendly makeup and skincare products and be fully stocked and ready by August, ha ha!
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prettyinpa

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@tenngal- A handy trick that you might try if you don't want to decant your containers of makeup is to just send them on to your hotel via the post or some other delivery system. If I am going to stay someplace awhile, like an extended work thing, I pack up an extra set of clothes and my makeup things that are larger than 3 oz (the max size of any container) or stuff that won't fit in the 1 quart baggie and mail this to the hotel. I call ahead to the hotel to make sure that they are ok with this, but invariable they are. In case that the airline loses my luggage, I will have clean clothes waiting for me (also pack a spare pair of undies in your carry on if you don't mail ahead). This method works great for aerosol cans which are always too big to fit in carry on and lets you really live in comfort for your extended stay. There is also 3floz dot com which sells high end cosmetics in small travel approved sizes that you can just order your favorites and they come in little containers (no decanting)!

 

Or since your family is driving out, pack your big containers up and have them carry them for you and only carry very minimal makeup bag.

ran8

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I've had to fly on my own for quite some time.  Every time I had assistance as a child, they usually always made me very close to missing my flight.  After that, I decided at 13 that I could navigate the airports on my own.  My better half on the other hand dilly dallies around so he has to be poked to go in the right direction.  Bad things:  food and drink at the airport is expensive.   Yay for 9-15 dollar sandwiches.

 

If you ever have to stop anywhere with a layover time less than 3 hours; the best advice is to KEEP WALKING till you get to your gate.  An hour or two of layover is not much time at all before boarding and what not.  There is really only enough time to make it and then a pit stop.  Maybe grab and go food given the proximity to the gate.  Grab some comfortable shoes as I was a big dummy and had some flat sandals the last time I flew (me and DEN have a love/hate relationship and I should have expected a 5+ hour delay).  Ended up buying sporty sandals on the trip back. 

 

Airplane seats are uncomfortable for any height.  If you have the finances or a good massage from the husband, definitely book some time there or afterwards since plane seats are crampy.  I like the aisle seats better than the window since I really do not like seat surfing over other people (I always end up with the obnoxious people who get mad if they have to lift their tray tables).  I get dehydrated on flights so I usually take the water spritz or drink plenty of water. 

 

If you love reading and do not really get motion sick, then it is good for occupying time.  Dramamine before taking off works to keep that at bay.  Since I love to doodle, I take a small notebook.  My boyfriend likes to put his phone to the flight mode and play games (it will kill the batteries on longer flights unless they provide a plug in outlet).  Sometimes I enjoy a conversation with the person sitting next to me (not so common anymore since everyone just plugs in headphones now of days).  I hope you have a great flight. 

 

The one thing that is scarier to me is going to Florida in August.  It will probably storm at the same time everyday and the humidity is killer.  September - October is probably a better time (much more tolerable weather).  Bring the ponchos in a bag (buy ahead of time) to avoid hiked priced ones sold at the theme parks.  They plan on people not preparing for it.  My Cali friends like the Orlando parks better than the San Diego ones. 

 

@Prettyinpa:  That is a really good idea.  I've considered it if I ever plan to go overseas since a lot of people say carry on is the best way to travel.  Would it be a bad thing to order from a store in the country and have it shipped to the hotel?

maltipoo66

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Hey Tenngal!  My best friend was terrified of flying, but after a long talk I convinced her to go on her vacation to Florida.  When you get on the airplane, here are a couple things to remember:

-drink LOTS of water

-relax and breathe-the flight will be fine and you will get to see your family soon :smileyhappy:

-maybe don't sit at a window seat if you're a little nervous about the height

-if you like, there are air purifiers at Sharper Image that blow fresh air at you during the flight (you wear them like a necklace) so you don't get claustrophobic

 

I hope you have an amazing trip-I know that getting over fears can be really difficult, but I'm sure you will be able to do it. :smileyhappy:

prettyinpa

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@tenngal-  I travel a lot for work and can say that I do feel that air travel is much safer than car travel. Try driving around Washington DC or Boston and it will make a believer out of you!

 

I didn't fly before I was 27 and the first time I did I was flying to meet up with my future husband, we were going on an awesome all summer trip, so I had lots of incentive to go. I didn't sit next to the window and the person there shut the shade so there was no chance of me seeing out (I told her that it was my first time and she was very helpful). I had a Walkman (tells you how long ago this was) and just put on the music and read a book. Choose another Stephen King book if you are enjoying The Dome, time can just race past when you get engrossed in one of his thrillers. His son, Joe Hill, is also a good writer, his novel Heart Shaped Box is very reminiscent of his father's early work.

 

If you think that you are really going to freak, ask your doctor for a prescription for a mild anti-anxiety drug, they work very well and you won't notice that you are flying, and you don't feel all groggy and weird when you land. I use these when I know that I have to fly but the weather on the trip is going to be turbulent. 

Good luck, don't worry and have a GREAT time! 

curvygirli

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Hey how are you?

 

i actually suffered from severe depression growing up and go on/off it now. I just wanted to tell you from personal experience,  to take each day slowly and surely. Be selflish and enjoy your day as best as you can!! If looking at puppies makes your day - DO IT. Turn to people and things that can put a smile on your face.

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pocketvenus

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Wow, this board is full of courageous vibes....! @tenngal, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis - I have read that fish oil capsules can help arthritis as a non-pharma remedy... Stay warm!

katimae

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About a month ago my therapist figured out that I don't remember any of my second marriage.  It was really weird b/c I didn't know I didn't remember it and she thought I just didn't want to talk about it.  But she was also our marriage counselor before we got divorced.  So, I talked to my family and friends about it and found out he was extremely emotionally abusive and that's why I had blocked the whole thing out.  So the next time I went to my psychiatrist  in Hershey I told her what my therapist and I had discovered and she asked me a bunch of questions and said you have PTSD.  And I thought great another diagnosis.  Well, I had to go back down to Hershey to be evaluated by their specialist in PTSD. and that was yesterday. And, well, living the life I have, let's just say I've had quite a few tramas.  And I had to tell this Dr. all of them. I had a 90  min appt..  And then they said they wanted to see me back next Tues. So I'm a freaking mess. It's like they opened a door and then didn't tell me what to do with it.  My therapist is on a leave of absence.  And I can barely stop crying.  And  since yesterday I've had the worst migraine I've had in a long time.  I'm writing on here just because I need to be doing something. Oh, and I forgot to tell then like a couple major things.  Like when I was living in an apartment by myself in Raleigh and I woke up in the middle of the night and there was a man standing there in my bedroom!  Now I chased him out, all 115 lbs of me in a t-shirt and underwear.  My bestfriend said she heard me scream a block and a half away.  It was this big event.  A whole bunch of cops came with a fingerprint guy. The one told me the same guy had been breaking into other women's houses but wouldn't tell me what he had done inside.  It was scary as you know what.  I can't believe I forgot to tell them about that.  But if anyone wants to know if I'm ok - I'm not.- and my head hurts.

prettyinpa

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Oh, Kati, I've been thinking about you lately and hoping that you were well. Then this AM when I read your "finally" post, I was worried for you. My heart goes out to you, you have certainly had enough trauma for a whole bunch of unfortunate people!

 

Hershey does have some fabulous physicians and therapists there, I go there occasionally when I damage my body doing some extreme sport, so hopefully they can help you make sense of your life.

 

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

daisy346

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I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Do you have your family there to support you? I hope you're able to work through everything and get rid of the migraines....you don't need them on top of everything else.

 

Did you & prettyinpa know that when you're in Hershey you're close to the Lancaster Sephora? Probably only about half an hour or so. I used to have to go to the one in King of Prussia which is an hour away, so I was very happy when this one opened.

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