THE HAIR THREAD

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a thread to talk about your hair goals / experiments / fails / wins / products etc. consider this a RANDOM THOUGHTS: HAIR thread Smiley Happy

 

when i joined BT years ago, i was at the beginning phases of growing out a shaved head, after a decade of cropped pixie cuts and avant garde styles as well as defying my natural texture. my hair is past my shoulders now, and am fully immersed in this world of hair care and styling that i had been absent from for so long. 

 

this thread can be about anything. thoughts, questions, anecdotes that you feel like sharing but for whatever reason don't want to start an independent thread about. cheers !

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Finally making a proper hair post. 

Reader's Digest version: This is my hair today, but in about a week month I'm going to go a little lighter.

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The long story:

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I went through a lot to get my hair to where it is today. I first decided I wanted long blonde hair when I was in high school, and at the time my hair was short and red. Not exactly a great starting point. So I did what any rational teenager would do in this situation: I dyed it black.

 

I kept it black for years and grew it to my waist...but I still wanted blonde. I made a couple of attempts to go from black to blonde (would not recommend), and because I was never happy with the result, I always ended up going back to black. 

 

Then one day I had some kind of hair-breakdown. I was so fed up with never being happy with my hair, sick of the damage, sick of spending so much $$$ and never being satisfied, and at that moment I swore off dye and decided to just let it all grow out so that I could finally get the blonde hair that I'd wanted for about 5 years.

 

Growing out black dye took me three painful years. My hair looked awful for most of that time (naturally dirty blonde roots, black length...not a pretty sight). Honestly, it was incredibly hard on my confidence and self-esteem, to the point I haven't even recovered from it. I literally just wanted to hide until the whole process was over. I don't know how I kept myself from reaching for the black dye again, especially through the first year.

 

This probably seems extreme, but because I know bleaching is hard on hair I wanted my hair to be as healthy and long as possible when I finally went blonde for the first time. For those 3 years I babied my hair like crazy (no heat, no chemicals).

 

I had initially wanted to wait another year to let my hair get even longer before going blonde, but at the three year mark I couldn't take my appearance anymore and just made an appointment with a highly experienced professional. After putting so much time into growing out my hair I was really terrified to have anyone touch it (too many experiences with scissor-happy stylists), but it felt good to finally be getting the blonde hair I always dreamed of. Or so I thought...

 

It turned out really yellow. -__- The stylist had warned me that I'd probably need two visits to get it exactly the way I wanted, but I hadn't expected it to be so yellow. But if you haven't realized, I was pretty dang determined to get the blonde hair of my dreams...so I was willing to wait. I used purple shampoo quite a lot and the yellow really toned down. I ended up being pretty happy with the colour as long as I was toning it, so I never actually got it re-done (plus, I was very wary of damage).

 

I've decided that I do actually want to go lighter, which is what I plan to do this month. I still baby my hair and use minimal heat and do regular treatments to keep it in the best shape possible. Hopefully all goes well. I will be sure to post another pic afterwards. Smiley Happy

So that's my hair story. Only took about 7 years. Smiley Tongue

 

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@Asche  you have gorgeous hair!! all of your babying and patience has really paid off!

 

i have had a lot of bad color experiences, and major bleach damage as well. i baby my hair now, use minimal heat styling, lots of treatments, and less bleach/highlights, and it's finally in a good place for me. 

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Thank you so much @unfungirl!! 💜

I'm glad your hair is doing better these days. I certainly tortured my hair quite a lot over the years, and the damage was atrocious. Definitely a wake-up call. It was a horribly long process to grow it out, but I feel like it was worth it. Smiley Happy

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@Asche  I agree! I chopped all of mine off and started over about two years ago, and even though I hated my hair that short, I'm really glad I did it. Healthy hair is so nice!

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Your hair looks so silky and gorgeous--can't wait to see the final result!

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Thank you @jisub89! Smiley Very Happy Just a few weeks to go. I'm very eager. 

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GIRL, your hair already looks wonderful but I really can't wait to see the posts when you finally reach your ultimate hair goal.  I know how hard it is when you don't feel confident with a huge part of your appearance.  

 

If you haven't considered Olaplex or pH bonder, I would really recommend you look into it.  I've had a much more expedited route blonde (I've lightened my hair six times in ten months) and when my stylist tried to warn me I might sustain some damage with our last session even with Olaplex, I used an analogy she's started using with her other clients.  It's like a seatbelt, I don't expect it to save me but at the same time I probably should use it.  My hair is a bit more porous but I haven't experienced any breakage and I'm strongly accrediting it to the treatment.

 

Keep in mind, you're getting to the fun part of the journey so don't rush it.  

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Thank you so much @Nickelliebear1

I had looked into Olaplex initially, but I kept reading negative reviews about how it changed the texture/feel of the hair. Smiley Frustrated So I haven't used it thus far. I'm glad you've had a good experience with it though! It may be something I'll consider again at some point. Smiley Happy

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Stunning @Asche! All your hard works def paid off Smiley Wink

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Thank you @blackkitty2014!! Smiley Happy

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Oh @Asche your hair is gorgeous!  Kudos to you for being extremely patient to get where you wanted to be.  I feel like growing hair out when it's naturally dirty blonde is extra hard, let alone when growing out black on top of that. I wish I had dark roots because my natural hair color is so dull, it's almost gray toned. It's somewhere between dishwater blonde and mousey brown - the most pleasant color descriptions Smiley Very Happy

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Thank you so much @kso1225! Totally agree about the "dirty", "dishwater", "mousey" hair colours (could they make these colours sound any less flattering? -__- ). My natural hair looks really dull and grey toned as well, and because my roots were so light compared to the black dye, for the first year I'm pretty sure it looked like I was going bald. XD

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@kso1225 @Asche This is also how my dad used to describe our natural color, good ol' dishwater blonde. So appealing haha. I've grown to embrace it though, since it's right between blonde and brown, you have a lot of great options for switching up your hair color!

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Very true @StephanieBT! Smiley Happy

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@Asche your patience and determination to grow out your hair so you could go blond is really amazing! I've thought about growing at my hair to get my natural color again but I don't think I could be that patient. Your hair looks amazing and so healthy! I'm glad you're where you're (almost) want to be. Smiley Happy 

XOXO,
Marieke

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Thank you so much @MariekeBT! Smiley Happy

It doesn't have to be this painful to grow out your natural colour. If you're willing to cut it, or can match your length to your roots, then growing out your natural hair would be a heck of a lot easier. I was just stubborn and did it the hard way. Smiley Tongue 

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@Asche I do cut my hair from time to time so it does help with the growing out process! I don't like the idea of my roots growing out so much, but it's funny because people start to think I purposely did ombre with my hair or something since they haven't seen my natural hair color in years. No shame in doing it the way you did at all! Smiley Happy 

XOXO,
Marieke

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Wow that is definitely a long journey! I'm glad you're so much closer to your ultimate hair goal!

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Thank you, me too! Smiley Very Happy

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what an extraordinary amount of patience you have ! incredible ! i couldn't even manage to not cut bangs while growing out my hair--simply because i was so used to a massive change so regularly. (it was a bit mistake).

 

your hair looks gorgeous now. definitely still healthy !

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Thank you so much @jemly! It definitely wasn't easy. It's one of those things I look back on and think "how in the heck did I do that?" Smiley Very Happy I think it paid off though.

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