How much is too much?
Makeup can be so subjective and the interpretation of "too much" is really determined by an individual. If you feel that you can't see your natural beauty, then perhaps it is too much. A little bit of eyeshadow to open your eyes, liner, cheeks could be a minimal amount. It'll all depend on how you apply it too.
For the day, I would recommen going for more neutrals to brighter tones to bring out your eyes. For blue eyes try peaches, gold, bronzer and wash it over the entire eyes. Follow it with a soft pink blush.
Buxom- Buxom Stay-There Eye Shadow in MUTT
Urban Decay Eyeshadow-Blunt
Smashbox Photo Op Eye Shadow Trio- Multi-Flash-Nude
Stila Custom Color Blush- Sheer Pink
this blush is buildable, and works with your natural PH to obtain the perfect pink flush.
Try doing your makeup in natural lighting. Bring one of these mirrors and do your makeup by a window or outside on the back porch. Its easy to overdo makeup in artificial lighting. Stick to neutral makeup if you want to look polished and pretty and not too overdone and you'll be just fine.
Are you putting eyeliner only on your lower waterline and not your top lash line? If you're not putting liner on your top lash line I would suggest doing that (with or without liner on your waterline) because it will define your lashes more and give you a made up look with out going over board (depending on how thick the liner is of course I would start out close to the lash line then wing it out a bit) I would also suggest trying a colored liner on your lower lash line like a green,blue, copper or gold color if you want to try some color but not too much as far as eyeshadow.