nebel

PICKING SUPPORT GROUP

So I thought I was alone in this, but apparently many of you did too!

 

We know we're not supposed to pick. We know it can lead to scars and infections.  We know it hurts.  But we can't help it.

 

I'm starting this thread so that anyone who suffers with picking can have a safe space and judgement-free zone.  Please feel free to share whatever you need. 

 

Be warned: some things written here may seem "gross."   Please don't judge or tell us how gross they are.  We got that already, and that's not the point of this thread. 

 

xoxo,

 

Lauren

starletta8

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I'm trying so darn hard not to pick right now... I seriously need mittens.

prettyinpa

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A friend of mine had a serious problem with picking- turns out she has OCD- a trip to the doctor for a check up and simple medication solved the picking issue as well as the excessive hand washing and compulsive checking. It used to take her 20 minutes to go around the house, checking and rechecking things before she could leave, and she would still worry that her house was going to burn down from leaving something plugged in, even though she had unplugged everything. She could pick up her skin to bleeding, oozy messes and not be cognizant that she was doing it. 

kimmi1115

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Like the others said, medication does help along with talking and family support.  However, medication hasn't completely solved my picking problem, although it did help with things I was going through that were worse than picking.  My dosage has been upped due to some other issues that have come up within the past months, but they need to make a pill focused just on picking.

 

I am glad to hear your friend has been doing well on the road of recovery!

 

nebel

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I'm really glad your friend got the help she needed!  I am also on medication, which really does help, but one of the things with meds is there is no one-size-fits all, what works GREAT for one person is a nightmare for another.  Anxiety, OCD, Depression... these are not simple issues.  Meds can take the edge off but not make the problem go away completely, but science really is wonderful (speaking as a scientist!)  

thanks for sharing!

L

rikkie

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"What works GREAT for one person is a nightmare for another. Anxiety, OCD, Depression... these are not simple issues."

 

THIS. The medication my husband is taking works great for him, but when I was on it, it was the third worst a medication has made me feel. That doesn't sound too bad, but with the worst one I ended up in a coma and the second worst made my skin melt off basically, so yeah.

drrragon

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If only there were a medication to solve my compulsive-shopping-at-sephora issue!!

DeltaGammaGirl

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People always tell me not to pick at my skin or pop my zits.... and then I think if YOU had a white head that was just sitting on your face wouldn't you want to pop it?! I would rather get rid of the gross head! But when I am at home I use the tips of cotton swabs to pop acne because it doesn't put more bacteria into my skin

jennypenny1995

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(DZ girl here!)  Yes, I agree.  What I've found in the last few months is using q-tips or a Kleenex wrapped around my index fingers is WAY gentler than bare fingers.  I had a serious problem doing way too much to my skin to get it "perfect"--20 years to be exact--and have not had a SINGLE BLEMISH IN 3 MONTHS since I stopped picking.  I just keep reminding myself how embarrassed I used to be to have this major honker, oozing, angry thing on my chin, nose, jaw, or forehead, how much concealer I used to pile on, how much TIME it took to hide things before I left in the mornings...what a waste of time!  All of those things keep me away from the magnifying mirror and with much prettier skin and WAY MORE CONFIDENCE.  It's simply a choice!

Spyski

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Has anybody ever picked their acne with tools like tweezers or an extractor? I know I have used tweezers in the past, and oh buddy THAT is damaging. I feel bad that I've done that numerous amounts of times, and noticed when I didn't clean the tweezers properly (dipped in alcohol)...would make my acne worse because it was putting whatever impurities that were on the tweezers back onto my skin. Mostly bacne, but i've tried that with my face. Terrible mistake. Please, don't do that!

DTalksAll

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I find extractors to be ineffective. The only time I use them it the pointy tip for removing a milia seed when it's close to the surface. But I find a pin is smaller & leaves less of a hole. 

Tweezers sometimes if it's a whitehead and it's stuck in there, but that doesn't work out so well. 

nebel

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Yes on tweezers, and this also resulted in (this is bad) the worst job I've ever done on my hands. I used a pair of pointy analytical tweezers that we use for moving samples at work (I'm an analytical scientist) and ripped all my cuticles out.  OWWWW. 

nebel

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Didn't even realize this until I just caught myself doing it, but my picking also manifests as chewing on the inside of my cheeks until they are bloody and raw, particularly when I am thinking.  Does this affect anyone else?

makeupmaven

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Since you are an avid yogi, do you find instructions to "relax the facial muscles" helpful? I personally do!

 

Finally, maybe omega-3's in the diet and supplements will help a little? Just as far as promoting healthy brain function/ mood. I can be pretty neurotic at times, having a tech job (and constantly having to problem solve) doesn't help much. So trust me, I feel your pain!

nebel

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Yes, it is helpful to relax my face *if i notice that i'm doing it* 

I think that one of the common threads among everyone here is that we don't even immediately realize that we're harming ourselves.

 

Yoga has been one of the best and healthiest things I've ever done in my life. I love it so much.

 

I'll look into supplements! 

makeupmaven

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Awesome, and I think talking about it really helps so thank you again! Just knowing that you are not alone, that you're just human and stress affects all of us differently! Big brains are often way too overactive!

roxystar4

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@nebel  my sister chews the inside of her cheeks! all the time, esp when she is stressed or driving (which makes her stressed). She also picks at her face.

violalea

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hands...picking face....= pimples :smileysad:

roxystar4

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I feel like dannyc really captured how I feel after I pick- " I don't even realize I'm doing it until the damage is already done."

 

Covering the mirror has really been helping me the past few months (proactiv has helped a lot too) and making sure to not go in the bathroom unaware if I'm tired, upset, stressed, etc. Well obviously I have to go to the bathroom but to be cognizant of the reality that I can't trust myself if I get within 10 inches of the mirror.  I am fine if I am further away (2 feet) because I cant see the little bumps, blackheads. Seriously one zit can cause a lot of damage because it isnt just one, it turns into me picking at nearly invisible bumps and making a mess of my face.

LolaVal

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Yes!  The invisible bumps always get me!!!  I always start with a legitimate white head or something, and then next thing you know, I have 10 red spots on my face where nothing were there before.  

jennypenny1995

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Yes, I keep the magnifying mirror on my husband's side of the vanity to keep me from myself.  Horrid thing! = )

DTalksAll

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ah those stupid invisible bumps that we turn into monsters that would have never formed if we just left them alone... 

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