Beauty Pet Peeves 2

[veronika23]

The other thread was getting too long and difficult to load! 

So what are your beauty pet peeves? What grinds your gears? Share your stories!!!

[JayAitchGee]

Complaint-shaming. 

I belong to several beauty forums and interact with a handful of blogs (mostly subscription box related), and I've noticed an increasing intolerance for any perceived "negative" commentary. In many cases, when someone relates an opinion or experience that's less than enthusiastic, it's almost guaranteed that several people will jump in to tell that person why they "shouldn't" complain. The site or blog owners are the only ones with the right to dictate post or comment contents, and yet most of the complainer-shamers are fellow users/members who cite "negativity" as justification.

To be clear, I'm not talking about hyperbolic complaints like "omg _______ subscription box is the WORST b/c I got lipgloss instead of lipstick fml" or insults to specific members, but rather about very legitimate causes for complaint - things like a considerable value discrepancy, products that aren't as advertised, cancelled orders, customer service issues, etc.These are frustrating issues, and I can understand why people want to air them - sympathy, advice, caution, reassurance.....the list goes on. 

While I can understand not wanting to read a litany of angry rants, in some situations disappointment, frustration, and even anger are merited. It's wonderful when things work out for the best, but that just isn't always the case - why is it wrong to voice disappointment when standards are not met? I feel like the "no complaining!" people want everything positive all the time always, and that's just not realistic. If one prefers not to expose herself to "negativity," it seems easier for that individual to just not read the complaints rather than invalidate and censor all those who make them.

Post-script: I recognize that on a very literal level this post itself engages in what it denounces, in that it complains about the complaint-shamers and prescribes a behavior they "should" follow (skipping over "negative" posts). It's meta-within-meta. But this is the thread for our gripes and sore points (which, if memory serves, people have complained about for inviting negativity), so here I am. I honestly am not trying to "start anything" -  this is a wonderful community and I've enjoyed engaging with ALL of it - the celebrations, the advice, the hauls, the counsel, the excitements, the complaints, the joys, the disappointments, the support, the peeves, the tutorials, the rewards, the anticipations, the frustrations, the tips....thank you for all of it. ❤️

[veronika23]

Yup totally sounds familiar... It can't all be sunshine, lollipops and rainbows 😄

[liv545]

I totally feel you on this one. Luckily here people tend to be really supportive as far as I've seen. It's sad to see that kind of nonsense. 

[AmdSeph]

THIS! Def. agree with you!

It looks like MANY people act like company 'shills'.

I don't think they want everything positive but rather get over-defensive about their choice. They see that...whenever people post complaints about products they are choosing, hence 'THEIR' product, they become over-sensitive and think that their choice is being attacked.

Its the psychology of 'my personal choice being attached so I must step in and protect it'. 

[AmdSeph]

I never owned any ABH eyeshadow and the BF killer deal on eyeshadows are killing me but hate $17.95 shipping. Sigh! Why cannot they offer lower shipping. How the hell Tarte and Elf can offer so much cheaper shipping 😞

[jesscheems]

When being in Canada sucks lol #firstworldprobs

[AmdSeph]

@jesscheems hey at least we got Disney-lookalike Primer Prime Minister. LOL

[TriesToBoClassy]

Primer Minister.. Freudian slip? 😉

[Girly2Shoes]

Spell checker?

[AmdSeph]

Arr close enough! 

Spoiler

FacePalm

[Asche]

Shipping costs are literally infuriating. I understand them in most cases, but in some cases they are absolutely ridiculous.  -__- I wanted a $25 KVD t-shirt (from her High Voltage shop). To ship this thing to Canada bumped up the price to $85!!!! Are you frickin' kidding me?! That is outrageous. And the most infuriating part is that I damn well know it doesn't cost $60 to mail a t-shirt, but they don't give you any other option. Seriously ridiculous. 

[AmdSeph]

It should cost no more than $10, depending on the weight but I think they probably either choose super-expensive courier or just flat shipping 😞

[annypoo]

Peeve at myself... When I buy something that is final sale and then I feel buyer's remorse because I went a little overboard... Why must I have no self control?!

[niki172]

Okay I'm mad at myself. I saw on Trendmood that Kylie was releasing all new products today and one of the lippies called Dancer caught my eye. I was more curious how fast items would sell out then actually buying something so I put one in my cart and waited 30 minutes (minimized in the background on my desktop) and it finally let me thru. Well after waiting all that time and being shocked that it was still in stock I picked it up. I feel like I need to go to confessional or something. I swore I would never buy anything from her and I broke it 😥. It was after waiting all that time and it being there still it was like I just HAD to buy it. Oh well it's only $18. I need a bath - feeling dirty 😄

*This is not a dig at anyone that likes the Kardashians. I'm mad at myself*

[mella900]

As someone who bought a few lip kits from her in the very beginning, her products do not interest me at all! I liked it initially, but then as I expanded my liquid lipstick horizons, I realized that its not that great. 

But like you I also bought dancer, and jolly, BUT to give to my younger cousins as christmas gifts. 

I went on the site ~40 mins after launch and checkout was smooth with no waiting. And there was still stock left. 

[annypoo]

All the walking dead spam links 

[shimmerbait]

At the airport just now, going through security. I'm flagged for random X-ray screening, fine. Carry on luggage flagged for additional screening, fine. Luggage gets wanded and sets off the alarm. Hello pat down! I had it done in public view, because, as my grandmother would say, I'm "wild."

TSA diagnosis: "You have too much makeup, next time don't carry so much."

[prettyinpa]

You poor thing! I don't know why they choose me to get the pat down, hubby never has and it's happened to me 3 times. As for how much makeup you carry- Like as if that's any of their business!

[shimmerbait]

@prettyinpa Haha they didn't catch the other 5lbs of makeup in my purse!

[prettyinpa]

Oh my goodness!  I laughed so hard I had a sneezing fit!! You made my afternoon.

[patronbleu]

YSL’s Canadian customer service on their site, in specific “Rachel”… I swear they must be hiring bimbos for the company. I emailed customer service regarding a lip kit that was on the Sephora site and asked if they would be getting it. Her first reply was that they don’t have access to Sephora inventory and then told me to check their website for the availability of the product….First off, if it was on the website I WOULDN’T BE ASKING

Emailed her back, calling her out on the uselessness of that answer. I just want to know if YSL will get the kit….

Get an answer back going “may we suggest you click to be notified if the product is coming back in stock. We cannot answer when and if the product will be in stock as this is a marketing decision”.

Answers like this drive me insane. It’s like she had a cut and paste script which is fine, except she couldn’t even copy the right answers. Anyways, very frustrating experience.